FAF August 25 Setting Boundaries for Healthy Living

Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy and balanced life. It is important to let people know what you will and will not accept in your space, or they will set boundaries for you. This applies to personal relationships, work, and personal commitments. By setting clear boundaries, you can focus on what truly matters and prevent yourself from becoming overwhelmed. It is also important to set boundaries with children to protect your mental health and teach them about standards and limits. Remember to guard your heart, as everything flows from that space. Setting boundaries leads to a happier and more peaceful life. Welcome to Faith Alive in 5, the 5-minute gospel. Now here's your host, Dr. Faye. The word boundaries, you know, is often looked at as who do you think you are because you said personal space or don't call my house after 7 p.m. or don't even call me before 12 because I'm not ready to receive calls. So the word boundaries is a word that demands respect and you know what it takes for you to successfully have a great life and even a great day. If you don't set boundaries and let people know what you will and will not accept in your space, then they will authorize themselves to set them for you and you won't have any. I remember years ago when I founded the first church in North Carolina, Church on the Rock, and the parsonage was attached to the sanctuary and that was great for me. It was convenient. I could be there. And so it was just great. It was great living for me. But one of the things as the church began to grow, people would just start knocking on the door. And so I had to set boundaries. And I said, if you knock on my door and you have not made an appointment, you will be left outside. And some of you may think, well, that's cruel. No, it's not. Do it today. And it's probably the same way because I believe in setting those boundaries. And just because I'm home doesn't mean I'm available. You got me? So we have to set those boundaries. 23 says, above all else, guard your heart. For everything you do is flowing from that space. So when you allow people to monopolize your time, monopolize your day, and even get you on the phone and hold you for an hour with no conversation that leads to anything, really, but just idle conversation, you are not setting the standard for them. People want to know the standard that you have. And if you don't have one, they're going to give you one. They'll call your house when they get ready. They'll drop by anytime. They'll invade your space anytime because you didn't let them know what your boundaries were. And then you get angry because they crossed the line, but they didn't see the line. They didn't know where it was. They were just being who they are. So setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining a healthy and a balanced life. Remember, it's about balancing. In Proverbs 4 and 23, emphasizes the importance of guarding our hearts. As everything we do is flowing from that space. So when you're angry, look what's flowing. Not goodness. Boundaries help protect our mental health. You'll be sane. Or you can go insane letting other people drive you. Ensure we do not become overwhelmed by the demands of others. I'm telling you, protect yourself. Protect yourself from your children's schedule. They want ballet one day. They want music the next. They want hockey the next. They want football the next. Next thing you know, you're going from game to game to game to game, and you're exhausted. Well, I want to do it for my kid. I want to do it for my kid. You need to do it for yourself because your kids are going to lose interest in the stuff that you think they're interested in quickly. And some of you have already experienced that. We're talking about setting boundaries for a healthy living. Do you know you'll give more to your kids when you say no? You give more of yourself to them when you have these healthy boundaries. And also you're leading by example. Letting them know that no, we're not going everywhere. We're not doing everything. I don't care if Judy is doing it. I don't care if her parents are doing it. These are our standards. These are our boundaries. Whether in relationship, work, or personal commitments, setting those clear boundaries will allow us to focus on what truly matters in your world and prevent us from spreading ourselves too thin. How many of you have felt like you have been spreaded too thin? Huh? Well, it's time to set those boundaries. So take this to heart. These little short snippets of teaching in Faith Alive in 5, let me tell you, they'll challenge you to do greater things for your life. And you will be so much more happier and peaceful. Listen, for those of you who are supporting, I appreciate you. You can continue to do that using the hashtag DRFAYETV. 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