Chat With Themmy- Staying Motivated Under Pressure _w_ Danielle Stinett_

Temi welcomes viewers to a new episode of Chats with Temi. She introduces her guest, a successful woman who runs a digital marketing firm and is also a gamer and a mom. They will discuss how to stay motivated under pressure in various aspects of life. The guest shares her origin story and emphasizes the importance of remembering where you started and the obstacles you have overcome. She also highlights the significance of teamwork and learning from failure. Hello, hello, hello. Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, good night to you wherever you are watching from today. I want to welcome you to today's episode of Chats with Temi. My name is Thelma Siti Ahamba. You can call me Temi. I am your host for Chats with Temi where we educate, inspire, and empower irrespective of the topic we're discussing. All right. I want to welcome you to this episode. Thanks for supporting my entire journey. Thanks for following. Thanks for being in this space. I hope you're serving your life in the right direction. Remember, I am always rooting for you. Today, we get to talk to an amazing lady who's taking the time of her day to educate us. She is amazing in her space. When I went across the web, I saw this really superhero kind of vibe. She's just so awesome. She's a gamer. Trust me, I am definitely going to reach out to her for tips on how to stop playing games to my kids to connect with them. She looks like she's a bad gamer. She's on top of it because her vibe, she just looks so extra. When I saw her, I was like, okay, I want to talk to this lady. Today, we're going to be talking about something very interesting every single time irrespective of where we are, whether it's academic journey, professional journey, parent's journey, career journey, irrespective of where we are, sometimes we put a lot of pressure on ourselves, and a lot of times, there's external pressure from society, from family, from work, from school, from whatever, right? She's going to be talking to us today because this lady is the CEO of a paying digital marketing firm. She's a gamer. She's a mom. She has her own podcast, and her firm is an all-female firm, global female firm, guys. Women of color, women of non-color, whatever race, they're just everywhere, okay? And that's super cool to just connect with her and learn about her. Today, she's going to tell us how she's doing all the amazing things she's done because when I read about her, I think she's been in business for over a decade now, and I'm like, okay, how do you do this? How do you stay afloat? How are you successful? How are you continuously making money? What's your hands on your kids, your hands on your family, your hands on different things? So, guys, grab a seat. If you need a popcorn, grab that. If you have your favorite snack, sit down and stay put wherever you are. We're going to be learning some good tips from this amazing woman as she drives us through her journey, or drives us through her journey, and she's going to be teaching us how to stay motivated under pressure. Is it school pressure? Is it work pressure? Is it family pressure? Is it relationship pressure? How do you stay motivated and make sure that you're not throwing off your past that you want to get off? Welcome my guest, the one and only amazing lady from Kentucky. Like, yo, guys, we are global, okay? I'm all the way in Kentucky today, virtually. I'm studying in Kentucky and enjoying the real nice weather today, all right? So, give me a drumroll. You know how we do it. Yes, I got my guest on stage. Welcome, welcome, welcome, Ms. Danelle. Welcome to chat with Tami. Thank you so much for joining me. Thanks, Tami, for having me on. I really appreciate it. Like, just getting to know you and getting to know all the amazing things you're doing, I'm like, okay, I need a breather. That's amazing. That's what we call girl power, and you are just the definition of it. Please do us the honor by introducing yourself. Sure. I'm Danielle Meadows-Stennett. I am owner and CEO of Octane Design Studios. That's a 14-year-old digital marketing and branding firm based in the heart of the Bluegrass. It's led by a global team of seven women across five countries. We love the fact that we've been able to harness this really cool energy, worldwide global energy of supporting women, especially first-generation entrepreneur women who are starting their first business. I absolutely love the fact that I'm able to support minorities in this way. Wow, a 14-year-old. I'm a learner here, y'all. I'm literally going to sit at her feet and be learning. Y'all don't expect anything from me in this conversation because we're all learning. This is more like a teacher, a mentor, a coach kind of client style. I'm going to be sitting at her feet and just drawing from her wealth of knowledge. Definitely, when I came across your website, I must say I'm very honored that you could take time out of your day to educate me. The fact that, guys, I'm always the first person to experience these amazing people before they come to y'all. Nobody can take that from me. Y'all have to give that to me, okay? I need to experience them first, all right? I need to experience them first. Just looking at you, the things you do, how much work you have running. I know what it means to work virtually. Sometimes you need extra discipline to be able to be on top of your game, to be able to get, you need some supernatural motivation to be able to maintain your level of motivation throughout the day. Working virtually, you have a start time, but that end time, end of your day, I used to tease my former boss. I'm like, when he tells you by end of day, it's like 12 a.m. in the next morning. There's a start time for the morning, but there's no end time. I tell him, he's going to be like, did you check that thing before you left the office? I'm like, okay, now there's this home hour and stuff like that. Can you just, with all the things you work around, how do you stay motivated under pressure? I stay motivated going back to a lot of my origin stories. For many of us, we watch superhero movies like Marvel. We watch things along the lines of DC movies and comics and things. Everybody, everyone has an origin story. I feel like the way that I get motivated through difficult times is to always remember my origin story, remembering how I started the business. I started from very humble beginnings, 500 square foot, one bedroom apartment. I know many people, many women have done less and done more from that situation, but for me, that was very humble beginnings. I was already with my two-year-old toddler at the time. I was pregnant with baby on the way, and I was just trying to figure out putting these pieces together. How do I use my passions to not only feed myself and feed my family, but also feed my soul? Society has told me on more than one occasion up until that point that I need to be working in a more corporate situation. I need to be taking care of somebody else's babies to pay my bills. Society has put those type of thoughts in our head that we're not capable of doing more, or we're not capable of winning on this level. I literally had to reprogram, reset myself in a lot of areas to figure out how to play better, faster, and harder so that other people would recognize, one, that I'm legit, and then two, that we're trying to find ways where we can level up the game in regards to branding and identity overall in this industry. On a normal day, say, for instance, in business and life in general, it's this way. Right. What do you do? Sometimes it's not like today is good and tomorrow is not so good. Sometimes even in one day, you have the highs and the lows in just one day. That's right. How do you maintain your momentum to say, okay, you leave your house, say your affirmation, it's going to be a good day, or you leave your bedroom, say your home office, and be like, it's going to be a good day, and then you get in the office and be like, okay, now does this say it's just going to be a good day? What do you do on days that are not so good days? Absolutely. So on days that are not best days, I have to remember my realm, right? Remember my teammates. And that also gets me through a lot of spurn moments where one minute everyone's giving you praise and accolades, and the next hour it's everything went to crap, everything's burning, the couch is burning, what is happening? And in those moments, I have to remind myself, one, that I'm human, and then two, that I am capable of more than this moment, right? I think, again, about the team. I think about that origin story. All the things that I had to succumb and overcome led me to this point. At this point, that should give me enough gusto and momentum to be like, I can beat this today. I can clear this level today. Maybe I can't clear this level today, but I can work towards a common goal for tomorrow. That's also something that I kind of remind people over and over again is you're not going to build Rome in a day, right? Rome wasn't built in a day. It takes pieces. It takes a team. It takes multiple counterparts in order to build up to the level that you want to build. And that's exactly what I had to do in those 14 years was kind of put the building blocks and let them stack the cards, as we will, or get to the next level, if you will, on multiple areas, finances and building the right team members. The team members we started out with are not the team members we have currently right now. So it was really important for us to actually remember that it's okay to fail. It's actually really good to fail because it's how you learn. If you're always winning all the time, you're never going to know what it's like to come against adversity. And adversity is what makes champions. Adversity is what makes a difference. Adversity is what actually helps us grow more in our talent and the things that we carry, the things that we're passionate about. So I do think in multiple ways it is a matter of remembering, again, kind of the humble beginnings, the steps where you started so that you know where you want to grow. That's such an amazing example because a few years ago I spoke about, you know, one was forget motivation and build discipline. And another one was handling failures and rejection or, you know, accept failures because it's your proof that you took action. If you did not take action, you wouldn't fail nor succeed. That's right. Failure is just your receipt to say, well, I tried. I did this before. It did not work out. Now I took some lessons out of there even though I did not succeed at it. So that's a great way to put it. So what are some of the – because for me, I look at it this way in three parts. Inspiration comes from inside. And sometimes you need something external to inspire what's already inside. That's inspiration. Yes. Motivation. Okay. Now, guys, meet my co-host. Okay? You're not going to see his face. Just so we're clear, he's going to come up on some episodes. Some episodes he's busy, but some episodes he's going to show up. All right? Just so you guys know, you have two co-hosts. And how do you call it? With motivation, I look at it as more of an external support, right? So your friends and family support you, your communities support you by motivating you. But the thing about it is it's not always going to be there. Correct. In those moments where you feel demotivated because something got your motivation down or it's not even there at all, how do you build discipline to help you to stay on top of your path? Are you facing pressure? Are you, you know, are you motivated to do it or not to do it? How do you make sure that you're still, inasmuch as it doesn't take a day to build one, but then a day, they can put just one block. What gets you that energy to say, okay, inasmuch as it's raining today, I'm just going to put one block. I'm just going to carve a stone. I'm just going to take a nail today. How do you keep those little things in check, knowing that you're working towards a bigger picture? I think constant vision of knowing your end goal. And I think that's also been a motivation for me. And those goals change. It's also very true about that. Again, the original goal that I had for Austin was to just survive, was to thrive. Now it's more than that. Now it's I want to help the next five women underneath me survive. Now I want to build a community where people can come to me for answers to build their own empires. I want to be able to create systems and realms for other people so that they can thrive and be successful. So, again, whatever your end goal is, I think that's the motivator to get you across that slump, across that hard level, whatever that difficulty is. Whatever that mountain that you feel like you can't climb, just imagine what it's like on the other side of that. Imagine what that goal could look like for you. So I'm a Christian, so I want to give a biblical example. The Bible says, somewhere in the Bible it says, The Spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. What do you do on those days? Pray. Pray. I take a lot of personal, I step away from my desk. I really do. When I get to a point where I feel like I've reached a limit today, I will personally go and step away from my desk. I look at a lot of green space. I personally love going outside, being amongst nature, being the outdoors. So I'll go for a walk if I need to. Sometimes I just need to feel the earth on my toes. And I will take off my shoes and I will be grounded in the earth for a little while just so I can release some internal pressures, maybe some anxiety that I may be feeling in and around either a project or a deadline, things along those lines. It is okay to leave your fishbowl. And I really encourage plenty of women, especially in this realm, we feel absolutely fixated that we can't leave the space. We can't leave the realm. We can't leave this particular room, this house, this building, because I have X, Y, Z to do. And I really encourage women to really get outside of their fishbowl on a regular basis, not feeling so, I guess, contempt to the area and space to which you feel like you have to stay in. A lot of times it's the times when we walk out of our fishbowl. When we get out of our fishbowl, we do something different outside of our norm that we're able to create new creative impulses in our brain, new actual experiences for ourselves, opens another element for creativity and innovation. So that's really where my personal, you know, tidbits are in regards to people who feel like today I just can't. And that's okay. Maybe you can't. But I guess the next best area would be to what can, right? What can we do in this next ten minutes? How can we go closer to that goal, whatever that goal is? Maybe it's finishing an assignment. Maybe it's rallying up, you know, finishing a task specifically that's hard to do. Maybe it's working with other people that make you feel a way. What can we do in the next ten minutes that would go toward that goal? And those baby steps is what eventually gives us the courage and the stamina to keep going and finish the race. So that's such a good example, right? Because, I mean, sometimes it's like we get under so much pressure, maybe because we're looking at what our peers are doing. We're looking at what other people are doing. Say, for instance, I'm a mother. This person's a mother, but they're killing it, and I'm feeling like why can't I be that? And then sometimes we try to downplay our own efforts, and we try to downplay our own grace, our own, you know, strength to sustain ourselves to a certain level knowing that, okay, it's okay to go back and get refilled and come back in, right? Yeah. If you go just too long, you burn out, you wear out, and then you don't have the energy to go more. And I like to look at it this way to say, okay, if I want to jump to touch my ceiling, I cannot stand and jump. So naturally in life, you're not supposed to always be high up. You appreciate the low moments because that takes you higher. If I bend to jump, there's a likelihood that I'll touch my ceiling. But if I bend and stretch my hands, depending on my height, I may or may not touch my ceiling, and that's only because of my height. It's either the advantage of my height or the disadvantage of my height. But if a tall person tends to try to make the attempt to touch the ceiling, and then a short person in height jumps from down up to touch the ceiling, there's a high possibility of that short person to touch the ceiling because they went low to jump versus the person who was standing and tries to jump while standing. Yeah, I love that. And can I answer your question like you answered earlier, like why can't I be like them? And the real answer to that is you're not. You're not supposed to be like them. You're supposed to be like you. And that's the difference between you and them, if you want to look at it that way, or her, or him, or whomever. It really is a matter of, you know, you are your distinct person. You bring your own distinct qualities into your spaces, into your realm. That's what makes your realm so special. And a lot of people forget that. They feel like they need to somehow be a mold, and they need to fit a certain type of weight, a certain type of category. And truly the answer is just be yourself. The more authentic you can be, the more special. People will recognize your own talents, your own features, and the amazing things that you want to do. Definitely. The other day I was talking to someone. I'm like, you are the sauce, all right? There may be other ingredients, but you are the actual thing. Yes. There may be other add-ons. You add some flavor here. You add some pepper here. You add some lemon here. You add some sugar, salt, or whatever. But you are the actual thing. You are the actual sauce. And the thing is, because we're all different, and we're all unique in our own space, there's this famous dish known amongst Africans, especially West Africans, as Jollof rice. Yes. The way a Liberian will cook their Jollof rice, it's Jollof rice, but it's different from the way a Ghanaian will cook it. It's different from the way a Nigerian will cook it. It's different from the way – I think it came from Ceylon or Senegal, I think. It should be originally their food. It's different from the way they will cook it and the way Ceylonians will cook it. But it's still Jollof rice. Right. It's still rice. And then just a little add on here and there. And then somebody goes deep in their memory and tries to bring back their grandma's recipe to life. And their food is tasty. Yes. But it's Jollof rice. And that's how we all are in our story because we are the original sauce. Yes. But, you know, as life hands us different people, different experiences, it kind of adds flavors here. Sometimes it's a little salty, but then sometimes you get some little sugar. Sometimes you get some little spice over here. And then before you know, the end goal is make a very delicious homemade meal. And at the end of the day, whether it's a little salty or it's a little too sweet or it's a little too sour, that was a homemade meal. Right. And you arrive at that destination of being a homemade meal. And I think we, in our effort to motivate ourselves, like you said, we should focus on the end goal. Sometimes it may change. And sometimes I like to say, like, for instance, say, I want to leave from Africa to come to America, right? Recently, I think that was some part of last year, some people drove from Ghana to London and London back to Ghana. Hmm. Yes. Someone had come from Europe to Nigeria as well, and there was another lady who came from, I think, the Netherlands or something, all the way to Nigeria on a bike. When the other group did, they rode a car. So sometimes the bike, the car, the plane, they're all, like, different goals. But what's the destination? We want to get to this country. We want to get to this particular country to say, okay, my challenge has ended or my game has ended or whatever. It doesn't matter whether you took a plane. It doesn't matter whether you walk a little bit or you took a bicycle or you took a power bike or a sports car or a Range Rover or whatever. The end is you're going to get there. Right. And sometimes what could help us to stay motivated when we're under such pressure is as you're traveling, your car do not need to break down before you take a break. Right. Take a break and relax and chill. The other day I was talking about rest as part of being productive. So sometimes when the pressure is just too much, my friend likes to call it staying calm in the confusion. I just relax. I have powerful things to do. The world is burning somewhere, and I'm somewhere just drinking lemonade and eating popcorn. I like that. And once I'm back up, because the thing is, those are the men who's down here it's no for, right? Yes. Sometimes you don't need to be down to be scared of a fall. Right. Sometimes you need to be intentional and say, you know what, this is the point where I wreck. I'm like, when you're giving a client a project timeline, make sure to include rest in that timeline. If it's going to take you seven working days, sometimes it's going to take you like ten working days. At least be upfront, be very genuine with them, because you could take a day off, you could take some minutes off. You don't want your team working on the project and then they break out. Right. Because if there's just too much pressure, what's going to happen? The work is not going to be perfect as you envision it to be because somebody, you know, they were too sleepy to cross a T or an I, or they were too sleepy to do the quality checks, and then you send it to the client because you told them you were going to deliver on day five. Right. Or day whatever. You did not consider putting in. And sometimes I think it's a great way to minimize pressure if we're just realistic to say, these people are not AIs, they're human beings, they have families, they have their own lives ahead of them. Like, we're on the call, and then my baby's coming here, and he's coming there, and I have to manage that in between. So just imagine if it was your team members. You want to keep their motivation up. You don't want to make them feel like a wreck to say, oh, everybody's project is going forward, and I'm the only one making the team to lag behind. Meanwhile, it's just a natural thing for a mother to be a mother. Right. And I think those are some of the ways we can stay motivated under pressure to consider some of the natural things that can happen and be able to just adjust our focus to say, okay, I see this is what we do. Right. Totally get it. And I love that adjustment focus because that also is a motivator, right, toward our goals. We think about the things that, you know, yes, we want to be a six-figure business. Yes, we want to support our, you know, our teammates and things along those lines. But that bigger goal of I want to be that example that you can take something and take nothing and make something from it. The bigger examples, the bigger pictures, those are the things that are true motivators, I feel like, in a lot of ways. And I really appreciate you bringing that up, that we can still be in this space and create amazing experiences and live life authentically and not have to apologize for it. A lot of us as women, when we talk about being moms, our kids are, you know, everywhere, or they're not, or they're right next to us, or they're not. Sometimes, again, the avenues of life we should never feel apologetic or feel in a way or feel a way, period, about being able to raise life in the world. That's one of the biggest honors that I feel like anyone can truly have. And so when we step into these spaces, we're bringing not only our tech minds, we're not only bringing our creative stamina, we're bringing the attitude of a mother, of a parent. We're bringing our femme experiences, all of our femme experiences into these spaces. And so that's what makes, I guess, being a woman in tech so unique, is we're coming from this technical background, but we also have this huge part of our humanity that is very nurturing and is emotionally intelligent. And being a mom, I think, adds to that experience of being a woman in tech as well. And just like you said, right, I mean, it's our everyday life. Like today, I was talking to my other guest. Like all the guests I interviewed today, like my business, like I'm going to be in your business, and you're going to have to be happy with that. That's right. I was like, you know what, I'm so sorry he's not using it up. And she said, girl, you're fine. We're talking about women today. And these are all the natural things that happens behind the scenes for us. Because we cannot rule that out of our lives, right? Right. I mean, we say we want to build a better, we want to build our empire. What's an empire when you alone are going to be there? There's no difference from that empire in a one-bedroom studio. That's right. Hey, we wear the badge of honor. That's right. Exactly. So there are all these things that come into play to say, okay, this person is being in their natural, authentic self, and then they can also be fully functional in this area. At the same time, the thing we would advise is give yourself some grace. I think companies and businesses now need to give their staff some grace. Just say, okay, what was it like when I was starting out? Companies just didn't wake up to start being Fortune 500 companies or Fortune 100 companies and stuff like that. It started from somewhere. Even the ones we know. Zuterag and his friends started in their dorm, right? Right. They didn't just have Facebook massive office or Facebook headquarters. It didn't just happen that way. Right. Imagine if it was women setting up that company. Life would have gotten in the way. They would have gotten married. They would have been in a relationship. They would have had babies and different things based on their decisions. And they would still work towards building the empire that they had in mind, right? So there are some things we cannot just rule out of the picture, and it all contributes to us being motivated. And for you, I want to say, and maybe this is not – I'm sure it helps to stay motivated, so I'm going to go there. You being a gamer, how does – because, I mean, like, when I started out, I was like, this will be a cool mom. And the way boys hold games in such high esteem and knowing that my mom learned to play games because of me, like that's just next level kind of pressure. They'll probably grow up and expect their partners to learn how to – like, if my mom could do it, you can do it, sis. Why wouldn't you do it? Right? So, like, how does that – I know it helps to connect with your babies, but how does that impact you yourself as well? I believe that there is a lot of play in strategy. And so that has given me a lot of personal conviction, inspiration, and fueled my passions even further to create spaces where we're constantly using strategy for play. So what better place to start than playing with games? Gamification is one of the leading ways that corporations, businesses, individuals, and freelancers are starting to learn. They're better understanding about how to work with team players. They're better learning how to navigate in spaces that are unknown to them by asking more inquisitive questions through gamification. And so gamified learning is a huge way and a huge component that Octane is built on. We love being able to help encourage our clients. We love being able to not only infuse our personal inflections of gamification through all things Sailor Moon and Sonic and Mario and all the things, but we love being able to use gamification as a way to level up someone else's business. And so that's how I've been able to use gaming as a way to help improve the educational resources in and around our spaces. And I really like the way you spoke to that because I remember my first time coming to America to work for an organization here. They had, like, a ping pong table in the office, and I'm like, wait, what? Like, y'all that cool this way? You know? And compared to where I was working in Africa, I mean, just on a general African note, like, we don't have games in offices where you can be intentional. If it's not lunch break, just step away from your office. Yo, who's tired? Who's stressed out? Who wants to release some stress with me? Like, come, let's hang out and chill right here. During office hours and not lunch hours, that's what I'm trying to stress, right? Yes. Like, that was one of the coolest things I've seen. And I'm like, no wonder people stay traveling. On the other hand, like, at home when you try to get away from your laptop and, like, try to play some game on your phone or something, and they'll be, like, well, you're using office hours to do something else. Well, how about you seeing it in a way that this person is trying to get their mind in a better place to be able to fix the problem they're working on? Yes. Or, still, if you think they're doing something else on the phone, bring in a physical game and encourage gamification in the office that you don't need to wait for 12 o'clock or 1 o'clock p.m. to go for lunch before you step away from your desk. You could literally go play Tennis or Ludo or whatever, something that will just get you off of your stream so you can be able to get back, you know. Because I think we learn from playing. Yes. Absolutely. When we play different things, we know. But sometimes we wait for strategy sessions or staff getaway, and then we bring all these fun games. What happens if we bring in those fun times in the office to know that, okay, and what I've noticed so far when I was working in a corporate setting, right, every time we go for a staff engagement out of the office where games and stuff is included, something that would take us in office to, like, would take a week to work on a particular project or planning or do whatever. Like, if we're at that place for the weekend, we just get that done during the weekend. Right. Right? Because everybody's like, you're probably sitting by the beach, your leg is in the water, your laptop is on your lap, and you're just cooling off and working, and it doesn't feel like work. Right. Exactly. I think we need to bring that to help get people to stay motivated. So that way, even if your day is not going good or you're having a challenge, maybe you work on something and you're trying to put it, because I was working as a product specialist, so we'll build a product, we'll try to test the product. Sometimes you're testing a product and the product is not testing. Right. It's like, I just got so stressed. I was like, you know what? I'm just going to chill. My head needs some breathing space. I'm testing this thing, and sometimes, and the thing is when you're stressed and you're testing a product, you won't pick up certain errors because you're just like, okay, check, check, check. I just want to get rid of this thing. Right. If you're so relaxed, like, if you're working in the office, you come, you bring that great energy from home, and then you're just having a day, you will naturally just pick up some things and say, okay, this is not supposed to be here. I know it worked this way. Did we try this other way to see if there will be any adverse experience and stuff like that? You try to find ways around it to be able to get that thing to work 100%. But if you're stressed, you are just so focused on checking things off your list knowing that, okay, I told my boss I was going to finish this project today, and that's what I want to do. And then before you know it, Monday, Monday, he comes back and says, oh, we did X, Y, Z, and over the weekend, that did not work. Well, you did not allow me to have a break on Friday. Right. Exactly. So I think we need to be human to incorporate some of these things in our work environment so it helps members of our team and even ourselves stay motivated throughout, not just through the project or through the week, but we should be intentional about through the day. How do you stay motivated under pressure? Because some days are wrecked and some days are great. So irrespective of whatever it is, how do you stay motivated? There are a thousand things going on for you and different things like that. And, like, I completely, to answer that question, communication is where it's at. If I'm communicating to someone to let them know, like this is where I'm struggling, this is my, you know, my focal point today and I just can't reach that, or in general I'm having trouble getting X, Y, Z done, could you help with, you know, something else? Being able to delegate and communicate your concerns or needs is a huge, I feel like, way that we can instantly start to kind of feel a little bit of relief when it comes to those hills and valleys on those days where we're having ebbs and flows. I personally love being able to collaborate through elements like Asana and Slack where it's easy for me to kind of veer off in a situation really quick. There are plenty of times where I do associate with some of my colleagues and I send them a gift or a gist. If it's a mad one or a happy one, they kind of see where I'm at in the current moment. There's been a couple times where we've been mid-call with clients and I'm sending them, like, this happy gift or a sad gift because I don't know what's going to happen by the end of this meeting. But just being able to communicate, authentically communicate. We are humans. At the end of the day, we're not robots. We're created much differently. And so because of that emotional intelligence that we as women have, more so than our male counterparts, a lot of times we need to find a way to get that outlet across so that we can stay on task at hand. And so one way that I do that is constantly communicating, being able to communicate with my team, being able to communicate with loved ones during the day, maybe just having an access or an outlet where I can quickly put thoughts and things in a place. I also keep a digital journal. I don't know if anyone else journals, but journaling is a huge component to my personal mental health. So a lot of times I will keep a digital journal and list some of the goals or maybe the accolades that I've been able to achieve in a certain amount of time. And a lot of people refer to this sometimes as a brag book, if you will. So in those moments where you feel super low or the day has gone all the way down, everything's burning, you want to go back to this brag book and look at the things that you have been able to accomplish. And they should not be something relatively high. You don't have to win an Emmy Award. You don't have to win a million dollars today. It needs to be something very simple. I was able to get through the day and get through lunch without, you know, having to, you know, put out a fire. I was able to achieve, you know, X, Y, Z very easily today. Or maybe it's just something simple, like I was able to go out five for 30 minutes today. I drank a full eight ounces of water. You should be drinking way more than that. But I drank a full eight ounces of water today. Huzzah for me. You know, all the little things add up. And when we start adding those up, the tax is self-assurance. It's that self-esteem. It's being able to be, feel a little bit more extra pep in our step when we're taking on bigger mountains and lower valleys. And it's just right on the dot what you said, right? Like yesterday, I wanted to feel a little down to say, okay, I did not make it to go live and stuff like that. And I'm like, girl, you had three solid interviews back to back. And then in between, I was having some issues with stream. Then I did go live, but just through my Facebook pages because I was trying to troubleshoot what the issue I had the previous night. And then I'm like, technically, I should have did one live. Like I did one live for 16 minutes and I was trying to troubleshoot. And the funniest thing yesterday was I had my baby cartoon play in the background. It was playing ABCD and this ABCD has the affirmation part to it. Like A-M-A-Z-I-N-G people. They're beautiful. And my younger sister was like, what is going on? And I'm like, well, I should not beat myself up because I did go live yesterday. And I got a few people to react to that. That's a testimony. That's a proof that, girl, you were tired last night, but you did go live. And sometimes you don't have to just go and motivate people. And I was like, guys, I'm not saying nothing today. I'm just troubleshooting and trying to make sure, you know, my platform is fixed because yesterday did not work so well. So I'm just chilling with my baby and then trying to troubleshoot. And then before you know it, a few people started coming on to watch what I was doing. And I was just cruising to that guy's studio. Like I was just laughing. I was like, what was I doing? But, again, thankfully I did that yesterday because I put my baby to bed last night and I could not go live as I always promised. Then this morning I'm like, I actually did go live yesterday on Facebook. There you go. I'm like, okay, even if it's just one platform I'll go live on, I'll go live on one platform. And yesterday was one of those days. I just went live on my page. I went live on two pages, in fact, two pages on Facebook. So I was out there yesterday. So I'm like, I should not beat myself up so much because I did three solid interviews. I went live to do my troubleshooting with Jumi Art and tried to fix the issue I was having. I woke up this morning and started learning how to edit my podcast and stuff. I had a meeting scheduled with a friend. And I'm like, I did it. That's right. I did. That's right. I'm like, I did a whole lot. And I was successful. Because sometimes, like you said, it doesn't have to be an Emmy Award. Sometimes it's just drinking water. Sometimes it's just you taking a walk. Sometimes it's just you saying, like I was talking the other day, I'm like, if you're on a weight loss journey and you do not make it to the gym today, the fact that you ate healthy, you drank water, that's a contribution to your end goal, which is a weight loss journey. You don't have to go up and say, oh, I need to check this off my list. No, no, no, no, no. You need to be calm sometimes. And sometimes that just helps you to level off the pressure that's on you. And I think to keep things in order and help you stay calm, that's asterisk. Right? Absolutely. I really enjoyed this conversation. I could go on and on and on. I'd literally take a half of your day. Thank you so much for taking time to chat with me. I really do appreciate you. Guys, if you are looking to help your life, me, I'm going to learn. I need you to tell yourself you're going to add that to learn as well. This lady is super amazing. Definitely connect with her. Learn more about her through her website. You can find her at danellmigostinette.com. Definitely connect with her and see what she's doing. Disclaimer, her vibe across her website gives off superhero vibes. So just so you know, see her looking calm on this video, you might get across the website and be like, is this the same lady that I saw on that video? Yes, she's the same lady. But just her website vibe is giving off superhero vibes. And I am so honored that you took time to educate my faith and impact us and share your knowledge. And I am coming to learn from you. 14 years in the business, there's no mean feat there. Thank you. Of course, running it with a virtual team, I would say unashamedly, you are where I want to get to. Yes, that's the thing. I love it. Inspiration. You are somewhere that I want to get to. Like I said, I was going to be sitting at your feet and learning. So I am definitely going to sit at your feet and learn because you are in a position where I'm trying to get to. And I'm not actually going to say, okay, I want to learn from you, or I want to connect with you and help. And thank God, thankfully, you said you're looking to help other people build their empire. So I'm bringing my mortar and my shovel and my bricks and my bucket, definitely trying to put up some stuff. Well, you might need a controller. You might need a controller. I have my co-host who's going to be coming with his campers and his wife to help us put some stuff and take some bricks and debris. But thank you so much, Ms. Danielle, for taking the time to talk to me. I am super honored to have you take time out of your very busy day to educate my community, educate myself, and just pour into me and pour into this space. I am so honored. And I really appreciate your time. Guys, until the next episode, I'll see you following Ms. Danielle on her platform and definitely learn from her. If you're a parent, if you're a mom, especially a boy, ma'am. Yeah, okay, I got my boy in the back, so you already know where I'm at. So I'm definitely reaching out to her. So you should do the same. Thank you so much, ma'am. I really appreciate you. Bye. Bye.