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Connor Sivley, a junior at Dictator Heritage Christian Academy, plans to start a series to help people deal with feelings of being overwhelmed, stressed, and anxious. He believes that these skills are hard to find on your own and that having someone to talk to can help figure them out. Connor discusses how everyone experiences concerns, anxiety, and overwhelming emotions, but it's important to get past these challenges. He also mentions his upcoming football season and the pressure to perform well. Connor emphasizes the need for mental clarity and control over one's emotions. He acknowledges that life can be overwhelming, whether it's school, work, or personal life, and that striving for perfection is unrealistic. He encourages self-reflection and understanding, as well as taking time for self-care and therapy. Connor shares his experience of handing out popsicles to kids, highlighting the impact small gestures can have on someone's day. He reminds listeners to appreciate what they hav Hello, my name is Connor Sivley. I'm currently a junior at Dictator Heritage Christian Academy in Dictator, Alabama. And this is going to be sort of like a series, I guess. I haven't really, you know, come up with a name or anything of it. But it's just going to help you really deal with, like, you being overwhelmed, you being concerned, you having stress, you having anxiety. You know, it'll deal with all those things and just, I guess, help have skills for you on the way that, like, you know, it's kind of hard to find on yourself. Like, it's kind of hard to find, like, on your own. You really need somebody to talk to you about them and really help you, like, figure them out and stuff. So, like, everybody has concerns. You know, everybody's overwhelmed about everything, like, stuff. You know, everybody has anxiety. You know, even, like, things can change within a couple weeks or maybe even a couple of days. And that can really depend on, like, how much anxiety or how much stress you have and how much you're overwhelmed about everything. And sometimes you can even have this, like, really good energy. You can have, like, so much energy, you know, you can even feel overwhelmed about that good energy. So, there's going to be, like, a lot of times in life where you have, like, it's just overwhelmingness, I guess. And it's just, like, a lot of emotions, you know, but you've got to get past those problems, you know. And I have a football season coming up, you know. There's, like, a bunch of, not really stress, but just, like, you know, really not trying to mess up. Like, really getting, like, really just grasping, I guess, like, the playbook concept, you know. You're not wanting to mess up because you're not trying to look bad. You're trying to look like, you know, you're the best on that team. And you're really going to get prepared for that. You know, there's going to be, like, a lot of emotions around that. Even, you know, you'll even have emotions around your personal life, but you can't really let those get in the way of, like, what you do and what you do best. You know, because there's, like, a lot of things in life, and most of those things are, you know, mental and physical. Those are the two main things. But I feel like most of the things in life are mental because you really have to get over your mental because physical pain, you know, may not last forever. But sometimes that mental pain, if you never get over it, you know, it can still be in the back of your mind. And you really need to work past that, you know, work, like, clarity, you know. And it's really good just to, you know, have that form of clarity, you know, and have other people tell you you have that form of clarity so you can really, like, know what you're going to do. And you can really get back in control of your body, you know, and in control of your emotions and of your, you know, your mentality. That's why it's always good to have a good mentality, you know. You're, like, always good, always, like, a good person to talk to, always there for somebody, you know, that you need. And I guess that's what this podcast would be about. But there's a lot of, you know, overwhelmingness. You know, school can be overwhelming. Work can be overwhelming. I'm guessing from a parent's standpoint that kids can also be overwhelming. Because you're tasked, you know, to do all these things in your life. But at the end of the day, you know, you can't do everything, and you can't do everything perfect. But really, like, if you strive to be perfect, and if you try to do everything perfect, I guess you're not really going to go anywhere. Because everybody's going to mess up, and you just got to accept that. You know, everybody messes up about every day. Nobody's perfect. Like, nobody will be perfect. And it's really just about how you're living your life. Because a lot of people can choose how they live their lives, and some people just let that choice go to waste. Which, like, isn't really, like, you know, it's not a good choice, you know. But some people can also be overwhelmed. You know, graduating high school, you know, losing, like, a state championship for us for, you know, graduating college. You know, starting your life as a young adult with, like, an actual job. And, you know, like, living off your money. Like, once you, I guess, move out from your parents, you know, you really got to, like, stop and just, like, think about what you're going to do. And what you need to continue to do is to build up, like, that good life so you can have that good choice and not let it go to waste, you know. And it's a good thing, just, you can just sit there even, like, right now. You can just take 30 minutes, maybe even an hour, you know, and just, I guess, give yourself, like, a therapy session. You know, like, walk yourself through the steps of how you're feeling. And it's like, oh, excuse me, it's 11, Saturday night, and I'm a little tired, you know. But you really want to understand yourself, you know, and you really want to get in your place. Like, get in a place to where you can, you really see yourself, and you can see yourself in a good place in the future. And where you can really take control over your, not really over your life, but over your body. Because, you know, at the end of the day, there's still things that people don't want to do. But, you know, they have to do it. Like, whether it's a job, you know, whether it's raising kids, whether it's, you know, moving to college, whether it's moving out of college. You know, whether it's having to go into work and do extra hours and go, you know, go and do that stuff. But, you know, you really want to understand yourself because a lot of people ignore or, you know, they judge themselves. Which, that's a really easy way to get down on yourself, and that's a really hard way to, you know, move past that. Because if it's easy to bring you down, you know, most of the time it's not going to bring you up. It's going to take a while to bring you up. Because if something's hard to bring you down, you know, if you get over it, it'll be harder for it to bring you down the next time. But if it's quick, you know, it can still gradually get quicker. Like, you really need to find the root of that problem and, like, task yourself with a mission to find the root of that problem. And, like, you know, it could take a while for these actions depending on how overwhelmed, you know, how much stress, how much anxiety you have. But, you know, everybody's life is different. Nobody's life is the same. You know, you could go through an easier day while somebody else is going through a harder day. Or you could just go through every day being a hard day, you know. You never know, like, you know, how good, like, a community is doing, you know, until you, like, really sit down and, like, look at it. Because the other day, like, me and my dad handing out Popsicles to kids that didn't have the best home life. But even though they got a Popsicle, you know, it could have made their day. It could have made their week, you know. It really made them feel special. And there was this one kid. He kept getting Popsicles. He was just, he was so overwhelmed with joy, you know. And I started to smile. I could obviously tell that he was happy. I didn't get to see his parents. I didn't know where they were. But you could just tell that this boy was, like, really excited for that. And you could really tell that it made his day, you know. And it's really good to be part of that and really get what your community did. Because once you see, you know, how different other people's lives are, you really, like, start to reflect on, like, you know, sometimes how good your life is. And you don't really ever see, you know, like, the other side of people's lives, you know. And, like, I guess, like, I'm a big thinking person. I'm more of, like, an over-thinker, you know. I'm a really, you know, tenor-hearted person. You know, I can, you know, I can probably cry, like, pretty quick off of, like, a small thing. Whereas somebody probably wouldn't cry off of that. But it's just, like, it's just those things in life, you know. You can't really control, you know, too much. But, you know, they're just there. And you really have to, really have to, I guess, sort of, you can't really get over those things, you know. I guess you just have to get used to them. You know, try not to miss them when they're there. So, I guess, cut those. Because they're not really bad habits. But they're just kind of, like, habits in your lifestyle that kind of, like, affect, you know, a different way that you can live. And you just, like, realize, like, you know, how different your life is. But some people's lives are amazing, you know. Some people's lives are, you know, amazing. But that doesn't mean that it's amazing all the time. Because, you know, even if you're, like, super rich, you know, you might often, not occasionally, but often, like, have to miss, like, times, like, with your kids. You know, times that you probably can't get back with, like, a business or a business deal, I guess. Because you can't really get those times back, like, you can't get that time back with your kids. But you can also, like, you can still be there for them, obviously. But, you know, if you're in this, like, major business thing, you know, you're not really going to get to see your kids that often. But that's really, like, the price you have to pay. Because would you rather have, like, a lot of money and not build a good relationship with your kids? Or, you know, just be, like, a middle to high class person and get to see your kids every day, you know, and spend a lot of time with them? So it's really just that stuff you got to, you know, think about. Because even, like, super rich people still have stress and anxiety. Like, because they don't know what's going to happen to their company the next day. Like, their stocks could fall down. They could lose everything. But even after that, you know, if they don't have a good relationship with their kids, it would kind of be weird, you know, like, having to interact with them more than what they had to do because they're not used to it. But that's the thing for us. We've got to do things, you know, that's out of our comfort zone to, like, I guess make an impact on their life for the better. Sometimes we have to see, you know, the worst for us to understand how good our life is. Because our worst life moments could probably be somebody else's probably, like, best life moments. And you really got to, like, take an account with the people who you surround yourself with. Like, that plays a big, that plays a really big role in your life and how you, like, look at your life, the relationship you have with other people. You know, like I said, everybody's life is different, you know. You just got to live it, just got to live it to the max, you know. And that's really the thing I don't think most people know is you can still, like, have fun in your life, but you can also still, you know, do good. I'm not saying that everything fun is, you know, good to do, but not everything fun is bad, you know. Something fun could, you know, drastically, like, change on how you look at life because it could be something new to you that you've, like, never experienced before. But then, you know, at the end of the day you can really reflect on it and see, like, how much good you've done. And, you know, how much you've probably, just by doing a fun thing, you know, how much you could do to change one person, like, somebody's day, you know. And don't, probably never forget it, you know, it'll be with them all the time. And, yeah, it's just the little things like that, you know. You could be concerned with a lot of things, but you could also just be concerned with nothing. But even not being concerned still comes with a lot of overwhelming thoughts, you know, and everything. And you still need to find a way to get rid of that problem. So, yeah, it's just, really just look at yourself and take some time to really, like, just take some time to really just look over your life and, you know, reflect on it. Because, you know, nobody knows when they're going to die, but everybody hopes that they have, you know, a long time to live. Because, you know, like, heaven is this wonderful place, but I feel like most people are scared to die because I guess they don't really know what's going to be there waiting for them. Which, you know, as you reflect on yourself, you know, if you don't feel like you're going to the best place, you know, in life you can really change that, you know. So, it's just those little things that you can do that can really, like, affect more of your life and really, like, change the person who you are. And it can really change the person who you become. And you can even pass that down to your kids and your grandkids, you know, and they can pass that down, too. It's just something that you can just build up and it'll go throughout, it'll just go throughout everybody. And it just makes you, like, it makes you, like, this good person, but, you know, not all the time you were this good, but you took a little bit to reflect on your life. And, like, you took just that little bit of time, made you into somebody better, but better for your kids, better for your friends, your family, your community, you know. It's just those types of things. And, you know, sometimes that's pretty hard on life, you know, because it's just different for so many people. But, yeah, I hope y'all enjoyed this and I'll catch y'all next time. Peace.