Episode_2__Labels-rec01-jancarterstumbo@gmail.com

The speaker discusses the feeling of being boxed in or misunderstood by others. They mention how labels and perceptions from family members, teachers, or colleagues can make them feel uncomfortable and boxed in. They also talk about how they have boxed themselves in and the need to break free from these limitations. The speaker emphasizes the importance of personal growth and evolving one's perception of themselves and others. They encourage self-reflection, journaling, and the power of creating to better understand oneself. The speaker concludes by highlighting the importance of being the hero of one's own story and appreciating oneself. Hey, welcome, everybody. We are so excited you're here with us in our second episode. Because we are going to ask you if you ever feel like you're boxed in. You know that feeling when you're just standing there or sitting there after a conversation and the person walks away and says wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, you want to say that's not one of us and you just feel so misunderstood and it's like wait, wait, wait, that's not me, that's not me. And all of a sudden that fear of feeling like you're misunderstood or your perception is not what you think it should be of yourself, that you're just feeling uncomfortable. Where you've been labeled, it's that labeled effect where you felt boxed in by maybe a family member, maybe someone close to you, even sometimes I know like a teacher or a colleague can say one thing and you feel like wait a minute, I'm boxed in, they have this perception and they've boxed me in. Or how I will stay in that perception and box my own self in. Mary, have you ever felt that way? I have never felt that way. It's... Oh... Yes. Oh my God. Yes. Yes. Oh, that self-prophecy, that self-prophecy thing. Oh, oh, oh, so how do we stop this? Yes. Yes. Oh, wow. Wow. Wow. Mm-hmm. Yes. Wow. I want to cry. Yeah. Yes. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah. You know, it's funny when you were saying that, I was like, holy crap, I boxed myself, I'm in my 50s and I think I've, I know there were times as I was maturing that maybe I pushed down some walls, but I think I've boxed myself in. I mean, I almost put myself in the box with your mom. It's that whole visual of me being in there with my hands pushing against the walls. Push, push, push it down. Wow. Ooh, ooh. Yeah. Yeah, it is. Mm-hmm. No, and you know what, and I think we find comfort and when we box people in and I know that as I've changed, it's made people feel uncomfortable and vice versa. It's like that change because there is conviction there. It's like, ooh, ooh, I want to keep you there. Because if you stay there, I can stay there. And if I, and then, I'm not, so, ooh, it's a little, it's a circle around a box. Yeah. Yes. You know, it was the first time because I've talked about that story and as I was really just visualizing it, myself and I am just not wanting to be in that box anymore. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. And I'm, knock down those walls, sister, knock down those walls. And I, it's, yes, yes. No, in my lens of life, it needs to evolve. It will evolve and it is evolving. And I think as I evolve, because isn't that sort of how the saying goes is life is how we perceive it. And so, I don't know, I feel like it begins with me. If I stop boxing me in, I think I'll be empowered to not box you in. Hmm. Hmm. No, no, no, no, no. No. Yes. Yes. You want to be your own superhero, your own superhero, yes. And we can, we can. Yes, that's it. We can, we can. So, yeah. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I love that. Well, it's about, don't you feel when you're comfortable in your own skin that those around you, the energy you release brings comfort to those around you. And then I, it becomes something more beautiful. We don't have to feel like, oh, I heard that. Somebody text you. Is that a real bird? Oh, Robert, get your phone out of there. Oh, no, that's funny. Anyway, so, you know, I digress. You know me and my squirrel. Squirrel. Oh, wait. I, okay. I challenge. I challenge you to think about, to identify and question the way you box yourself in, the way you have assumptions and expectations, even self-prophecy, again, of yourself. And I think once that kind of kicks in, you could start seeing how you're like, oh, wait a minute. I have this expectation, which is a box-in, I feel. That expectation can be a box-in of others. I don't know. Do you have something over there? Yes. Yeah. Yes. Yes, the doodle. The doodle. And for those of you who are like me and that journaling thing was just like, oh, it doesn't even, she did. She did. And I will say it makes, it does make a difference. It just makes a difference. But start simple. Just jot something down somewhere, and then as you're like, oh, oh, just vomit it out on paper, and like, oh, yes. It's the power of creating, yes, and how this helps us realize more about who we are. And it helps us respond to life that you are the hero of your own story. You need to have a take, too. Yes. Yes, yes, we appreciate you. We appreciate you. Thank you. All the good things. Like us. Follow us. Do we subscribe? Yeah, we'll get back to you. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Bye.