EP10

The speaker is filming in a bar surrounded by alcohol, despite no longer drinking. They explain that they are at their dad's bar, which he built during lockdown. They also mention a conflict with their mother's partner, who doesn't want them filming in the conservatory. The speaker describes the partner as an alcoholic and expresses their dislike for him. They then discuss the importance of not waiting for perfect conditions to start something and the value of discipline over motivation. They suggest starting with the hardest task of the day and enjoying the journey rather than fixating on the destination. Testing, testing, one, two, one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten. It's kind of somewhat ironic, isn't it, that I am filming in a bar now. I'm surrounded by all this alcohol after the stick that I got on the, it's quite ironic really, isn't it, that I'm filming this episode in a bar, surrounded by all this alcohol that I no longer drink. So, yes, change of location for today's episode and potentially the foreseeable episodes. So, yeah, we are at Kev's Cavern, which is my dad's bar. It was a little project that he, I think he started in the lockdown, because like everyone he had all this time on his hands and he thought, why not? I'll build a bar in the back garden, saves going out to the pub and paying pub prices for booze. So, yeah, it's a really good setup here to be fair. I didn't know if there might be like too much going off in the background. So, I do apologize if it's a lot to take in and you're getting distracted by everything else. But, yeah, we're going to be here for the foreseeable. Long story short, so for those of you that don't know, I still live at home with my mum and unfortunately her arsehole of a partner and he has now decided that after nine, well this is the 10th episode, that 10 episodes in, he no longer wants me filming in the conservatory, even when he's not in the house. And I'm still, I can't quite get my head around the reasoning behind that, because he said he doesn't like me filming in there because he can't go in there when I'm filming, but I always film when he's not in the house. So, if you're not in the house, you can't go in the conservatory. So, yeah, he, I really wish I'd caught it on camera now, because I don't give a shit, I would have put it on YouTube. After the last episode, he came barging in, effing and blinding, saying no more effing filming podcasts in here, you're not doing this, you're not doing that. Yeah, he just came in and just started being an absolute arse, just screaming, shouting for no apparent reason. You know what I mean? A civil conversation is all that was needed to say why he didn't want me filming in there. But, yeah, he's just an absolute arse. So, yeah. I also feel like he's, there's an element of jealousy in there as well. Like I say, he is just an absolute dosser, he's an alcoholic, and I mean, that's probably why I have such strong views on alcohol, and why I'm almost kind of so against it. Because I see him drinking pretty much all day, every day, and then every weekend, pretty much to the point where he just blacks out. He clearly is an alcoholic, but he won't accept the help to try and solve it, he's not willing to change. I used to be civil with him, as you can tell from how I'm speaking about him, I don't particularly like him. I've always been civil, but after that I just thought, you know what, as far as I'm aware, he's dead to me now. I walk past him in the house, like he's not even there. It's no skin off my teeth, I'll happily do that. I just feel sorry for my mum, because it's putting her in an awkward situation, because obviously I'm her son, and he's her partner, and she's in the middle of all this. So, I feel sorry for her, so I'm going to try and be as civil as I possibly can, just for her sake more than anything. So, yeah, enough of my personal troubles and personal life, and on to today's topic. So, I've made a couple of notes in terms of things I want to talk about today. So, yeah, the main things that I want to cover is around this whole aspect of perfect conditions, and why you shouldn't wait for perfect conditions, why you don't need perfect conditions to get started, because a lot of people probably delay things and they put things off because they think, oh, it's not the right time for me to start going to the gym, because I've got X, Y, and Z going off. And don't get me wrong, in some cases, you might genuinely have so much going on in your life that adding to it is going to be quite difficult, but for the most part, there will be times and there will be periods where you can do this, do you know what I mean? And even me with this podcast, I want to be as consistent as possible with it. I've not really been that consistent with YouTube over the last four years, and again, you think, oh, I need the perfect camera, I need two angles, I need the perfect mic, and as much as all this stuff helps, I could do podcasts without all this stuff, but in my head, I keep thinking, oh, well, I need to get this and then it'll be better. So yeah, those are some of the topics that I want to talk about. So I want to start off with a, so I've got a quote here from Alex Hormozy. I'm sure a lot of you will be aware of him and the work that he's doing, and he's all over the podcast world and podcast community at the minute. And I thought this would be a really good place to start because this quote is sensational. So Alex Hormozy says, an easy productivity hack, instead of spending the time getting in the mood to work, just start working, confront the work. People think they need perfect conditions to start when in reality, starting is the perfect condition. And I remember reading that quote for the first time and I was just, especially that last sentence, people think they need perfect conditions to start when in reality, starting is the perfect condition. I read that and I was like, I felt like I had an epiphany. And yeah, I think it's so true. A lot of people kind of like to bang on about morning routine and a lot of people are in search of this perfect morning routine and you've got all these influential people on the internet saying what their morning routine is and they wake up at five and they're straight in the cold plunge. They then do some reading or they do some stretching, like they're doing all this stuff and again, for the large part of you watching this, the average person doesn't have time to be doing all that stuff. This whole getting in the mood to work and getting in the mood to train, it's bullshit. And from a training perspective, that's why you always hear people say discipline over motivation. Because if you're trying to spend all this time motivating yourself and you feel like you have to motivate yourself to do something, that is just going to take up so much more energy, so much more time as opposed to just actually doing it. Nobody always wants to go to the gym, regardless of what level you're at. Cristiano Ronaldo did a podcast recently with Whoop, he's got a partnership with them now and he says, I can't remember what the question was that he asked him now, but it was something along the lines of how do you still stay hungry and how do you still keep your work ethic up for this long, like you're nearly 40 years old now. Cristiano Ronaldo said some days he wakes up and he doesn't want to go to the gym. He doesn't always feel like going, but he knows that he has to as part of this discipline and as part of this routine. Trying to do all these things to get in the mood to train or whether it's work related and you've got all these important tasks that need doing and you're trying to do all these things to get you in the mood to work, it's like no, just easy thing to do and this is something that I've started implementing and it's been a game changer. Whatever you think your hardest task is for the day, whether that's gym related, whether that's work related, whatever it is, get that done first. Get the hardest task of the day done because once it's done and it's out of the way, that takes a lot of pressure off of you and you're not just sat there procrastinating, scrolling or just doing pointless shit that's taking away time and energy from actually doing the thing. I think if you can just wake up and just like Hormozy says in the quote, confront the work, you will find that you will get so much more done on a work basis, productivity basis, training. A lot of people don't like training in the morning and they prefer to train after work. However, if it gets to the end of the work day and every single day or every other day you think, oh yeah, I've been at work all day, I'm tired now, I can't be bothered to go off to work. You see what I mean? You're delaying that. If training for you is the hardest part of your day to turn up and get it done, why not just try and get it done first thing so it is out of the way? You've done your hardest task for the day. I would give it a go. I was always reluctant to train in the morning but I've started training in the morning now at like half seven, quarter to eight and I enjoy it because for nine, half nine, my training is done for the day. I've got the rest of the day to work, to do PT, to record podcasts, to do social media stuff, clothing stuff. I really do prefer getting it done early doors and getting it out of the way. Yeah, another thing I wanted to cover was another, I suppose it is a quote, I think it was Michael Jordan that said this or Kobe, I know he's a basketball player. It's not the destination, it's the journey. So again, in relation to these perfect conditions and thinking it's not the right time to start the gym, it's not the right time to start this podcast, it's not the right time to start this side hustle, you have to think long term with it and you've got to learn to enjoy and embrace the journey. You always want to have that destination in mind, like me with this podcast and with the clothing launch that we are just about to do, I have a vision in my head of the destination of where I want this to go. Now obviously it's up to me to put in the work to get it to that destination but I'm not fixated on that, I'm taking it day by day, week by week and it is about the journey and the journey that we've had ever since we started, obviously those of you that have been around since day one will know that we used to be called Balanced Athlete, we had that whole issue with not being able to trade market, New Balance basically saying if you do trade market we're going to sue you. So like with anything in life, in training, in work, in business, there's going to be obstacles to overcome in that journey but for me that's what it's about, it's about the journey, it's about the wins, it's about the positives but it's also about the negatives, the setbacks, how you overcome them, you learn so much through a journey and again I'm talking about all sorts of things, whether that is a fitness journey, whether that is starting a podcast, whether that is building a business, whatever you want to do you have to learn to enjoy the journey, you've got to take the rough with the smooth, the ups and the downs, you can't just let one negative and one setback just throw you off. So don't overlook the journey, don't be so fixated on the destination and a common analogy that's used for this is climbing a mountain, you're climbing Mount Everest, if all you do is fixate on looking upwards and seeing where the summit is you're not going to realise how far you've come on the journey if you're constantly fixated forward. Now you want to be fixated forward and you want to be making sure that you're putting one step in front of the other and that you are moving in that forward direction but that should not be the only thing that you focus on. Every so often you need to stop, take a minute, look back and look down and see where you've come from to actually be like oh wow shit, I started down here and I've made it up to here. Again, look at where you were at at the start of your fitness journey compared to where you're at now, you might not be where you want to be but you'll be a damn sight closer than what you were a year ago that's for sure. The last point that I want to finish on is you have to believe it even when others don't. Now again, when you embark on any journey and the crazier the goal and the crazier the journey is the less people are going to believe in it. Most people, you say to them that if you've got a crazy goal in mind and you, I'm trying to think of a good example, take someone like a KSI, back in the day when he started out on YouTube it wasn't a popular thing. So you can imagine KSI going to his parents and I think he's done a video on this, he's gone to his parents and said I want to do YouTube full time, they're not going to believe in it. There's going to be people in your life and there's going to be people in my life that when you say to them I want to achieve something at first they might not understand it and they might not believe in it but don't let that throw you off, you have to be the one that believes in it more than anyone and then what you'll find is the more work you start putting in the more traction that you start getting and again if I'm talking fitness, if I'm talking you starting up a business, if you've got some crazy business idea and you say I want to start up this business and people don't believe in it, those same people once they see that you're starting to get a bit of traction and you do start building it, they then will probably start to believe in you but at the very start not many people are going to believe in you, it might just be yourself or a very small handful of people but don't let that put you off, you have to be your own hype man, hype woman in essence and relating that to YouTube, if you're sitting there and you're working a job that you don't like, you're unfulfilled, you don't particularly feel like you're treated fairly, you might think you're underpaid and underappreciated at work but you've got all these passions and hobbies that you're passionate about, lean in on that, honestly this is the 10th episode now of the podcast but I absolutely love doing it and I don't know why but it just ignites this spark in me when I'm doing this, when I'm filming it, when I'm editing it, so this is why I'm going all in on it and don't be scared of going all in, I know it might be scary at first and you've got this comfortable job but to begin with there's no reason why you can't just do stuff on the side, make time to do stuff on the side, don't just work for a company clock in and clock out, make sure that you are investing in yourself in your own spare time, I know it's hard, it's difficult, it takes time, it takes persistence, it takes a lot of belief when potentially other people aren't going to believe in you but if you stay on that path I guarantee you one day and who knows when that day will come but one day it will be worth it. So yeah we're going to wrap this episode up here guys, as always thank you for tuning in, if you enjoyed this episode please drop the video a like, if you aren't subscribed please make sure you do subscribe, it really helps to support the channel and it helps us to grow and it's going to help us to spread these messages out to more people and start bringing bigger benefits. I'd love to hear your thoughts on some of the topics that I've spoken about so whether you agree or disagree with anything that I've said feel free to drop a comment below and anyone's opinion is always appreciated and valued. So yeah thank you for tuning in guys, take care and I will see you next time. Peace! So before we jump into this episode I've noticed that quite a lot of the people viewing the channel are not subscribed. If you haven't subscribed to the channel yet please make sure you do so, it supports the channel more than you can think and it's going to help us to keep growing the channel as well.