LEARN HEAL MOVE ON

The speaker, Papa Silk, talks about the importance of learning, healing, and moving on in life. He emphasizes the need to evaluate past choices and decisions in order to understand how one ended up in their current situation. He acknowledges that mistakes happen, but they should be seen as opportunities for growth rather than something negative. Papa Silk stresses the significance of allowing oneself time to heal before moving on to prevent repeating past mistakes. He encourages listeners to embrace the learning process and take control of their own lives. The ultimate goal is to move on to a better future and experience the blessings that await. Yo man, hurry up man, it's about to start man, hurry up, hurry up, it's about that time, it's about that time. Yo man, hurry up! Yo, what it do, what it do. Welcome, welcome, welcome. This is Open Minded. And I'm your host, Papa Silk. Man, it is a wonderful Wednesday evening. And I hope everybody had a good day. So thank you for chiming in when you chime in morning, noon, and night. Catching the vibe with your boy, your boy, Jet. I'm gonna get off like this. When you have that moment in life, and then you've gone through a lot of pain, misery, and strife, where it feels like you're just being cut with a knife, and the feeling and the mood just ain't right. A lot of time and situations in your life that you live. No F's that you give. You know what I'm talking about. Relationships. Whether it be personal, business, spiritual, whatever the case may be. There's a time in your life that you have to sit back and breathe like I said before my other podcast. Because there's gonna be some things in your life where it just doesn't feel right. And you're mad, and you're upset, and you're pissed off, and you're angry, and you're hurt. And I got something in my notes. Let's see where I left. Yeah, so when I have thoughts, I come up with, when I come up with thoughts, I'd like to try to take notes. And I was having a conversation, and, which has helped leading me to this podcast. Which has helped leading me to this podcast. Because there's things in your life that you may not have an answer to. You don't know how and why and when you got there. What caused the emotional, mental state that you're in. It could be physical. It could be financial. Definitely can be spiritual. And you feel like you're at your wits end. Like there's no escape. Like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. Like you've been putting time out with your face in a corner. And there's no way to get away. When things like that in life happen, it's crazy. It gets hard, man. You know, we talked about things being hard. It's hard. Because then you have to stop. Evaluate your situation. Take a look and see where you're at. See how we got here. The road has been made. We got here. The road that we took. The steps that were taken. The words that were spoken. And the feelings that were made. I don't want to say mistakes. Because I think mistakes sometimes is construed as a very negative, as a bad thing. Because we've been trained and nurtured in society and driven to have a mindset and a heartfelt feeling that when you make a mistake, you're a bad person. That's a bad thing. What the frick were you thinking? What the hell is wrong with you? Are you stupid? Are you dumb? Did your mom and daddy not raise you to be... So many things that come across my mind when I hear the word mistake. But you also got to understand that on my last podcast, you can't change the giver. You may not be able to change the giver, but you can change how you receive it. So the things that happen to us in life. What's happened has happened. It'd be nice to have a genie. Rubber lamp. Rubber lamp. The genie comes out and I grant you one wish. And you're like, I wish I could change my past. I wish I could go back in this day and time, this moment in my life and change the choice that I made. Sorry folks, this is not Aladdin. This is not a Disney tale. Oh, how I wish it was. Because your boy, Papa Silk, I love my fantasy world. I love my dream world. I love how my mind works in a way that regardless of whatever's going on in the world, I'm in a happy place. I'm in a safe place because of my relationship with the Lord, the relationship that I have with God, the relationship that I have with those that are around me. Because I started off with a big circle and now I have a super small circle. You might even say it could be a triangle. Not necessarily three people, but three different sides. Two sides are even and one is different because I have that isosceles triangle. And what do I mean? I know I just went off on a tangent, but let's get back to the point. Because it's not about me. It's not about we. It's about you. If you feel what I'm saying. And what I'm saying is when you go through life and you have these things that happen to you, you have these moments in your life where choices were made, actions were done, conversations were had, mindset was there, and then you have the end result. And unfortunately, you're not able to go back in time and change what has already happened. So that, in fact, is the first part of this podcast is where we got to learn from what choices and decisions that we've made that led us to where we're at today. Right now, at this very moment. You have to go back and evaluate and just look at how did we get here? How did I end up here? You have control. On my last podcast, we talked about gaining control. But it may have been that point in your time, in your life, point in time in your life that you didn't have control. And we didn't make the right choice. We didn't make the right decision. We didn't have the right feeling. We didn't have the right attitude. We didn't have the right mindset. So therefore, we were tripping over a cordless phone. And we kept tripping, kept tripping, kept tripping. Falling down this hill of dismay. Falling down this hill, not so much of a poverty in the financial state, but a poverty of your mind. Robbing yourself of the good things. The best things in life. Doesn't have to be materialistic, but we're just talking about within ourselves. We tend to rob ourselves of great, beautiful joy. Because sometimes, of the choices that we make. Decisions that we make. And then it just leads to currently where you stand. Currently where you stand. So, first thing we gotta do, we gotta learn from all that's happened in the past. How did we end up here? Well, let's learn from it. What can we do differently? What can we do to make sure we don't repeat what has happened? To make sure we don't make the same bad choices, bad decisions. To make sure we don't have those negative responses and get to the point to where we can dust ourself off, get up, turn back around and be like, you know what? That was dumb. That was an idiotic move. I was telling somebody yesterday and today, when you make these choices and you end up with the results, you know, hindsight 20-20 is a beautiful thing when you get there. Oh, if I'd have known this, if I would have done this, if I would have said this, if I would have done that. Hindsight 20. It's a beautiful thing. That's why it's called hindsight. That's why it's called hindsight. Because it's behind you. And now you know better. So one of the things that you do is you got to learn. Learn, learn, learn. Keyword learn. From your nature's past. You got to learn. And sometimes in this learning process, it's going to have to burn a little bit. Because in your learning process, sometimes it's a burning process. And you know, what mama told you, or grandmama told you, or yanny told you, don't play with fire, because you'll get burned. Oh, the first thing you heard was don't. No. And our first initial response is yes. I can. And I will. And ouch. You're going to learn today. You're going to learn today. So what happens after you heard and you were instructed to not touch the fire, not to play with fire, not to go down this road, not to make these choices and decisions? You get burned. And now you learn that if you stick your hand in fire, it's going to burn you. You make a conscious bad choice and decision, you're going to get burned, and you're going to learn. And then let's get off the learn tip for a little bit. What happens when you get burned, when you start playing in that fire? You find ointments and remedies to help you heal. That's what we're going to talk about right now. Is when you learn all the things and all the steps and everything that got you to this place, you've got to process. Go back and evaluate. Think about everything that's come across and everything that you've done. And then you give yourself, allow yourself the proper time, the proper way, having the right energy, and the right space to heal. And I think a lot of times, most of the time, a great deal of time, allowing ourself, giving us time, giving ourselves time to heal. Because the hardest step in the healing process is taking that first step. I don't get it. I don't understand sometimes when you have an opportunity to sit back and try to allow yourself to heal, because we just want to sit in murky waters. We want to sit in the leech land. We want to roll around in the thorn bushes and keep beating ourselves up. Well, lesson learned, don't get burned. But you don't want to allow yourself to heal. Well, I won't do that again. Ouch. But you know what? Ooh. That's a different fire. Let's see what happens if I touch this. And you burn yourself again. You learned your lesson, but you didn't allow yourself time to heal. Let me say that again. You learned your lesson, but you did not allow yourself time to heal. And the healing process does take time. And it's a different time for everybody. It may take you a day. It may take you a week. It may take you a month. It may take you a few months. It may even take you a year. My grandmother passed away in 86. I think it was around about August 29th. I moved to Texas in 86. I moved to Texas July 4th. Got there late. Driving from Chicago, Illinois to Texas. Missed the fireworks. My grandmother passed away the following month at the end of August. Mind you, I was 9 years old going on 10. I lost my favorite person in the whole wide world. And there was a lot of lessons, a lot of things that I learned from that great and awesome woman because I feel like she's helped me and shaped me to be the man I am today. Of course, there's been a lot of lessons and a lot of learning along the way, but she built a foundation within myself. Much love, Grandma. Took me about seven years to heal after losing her. Seven years. And I hope and pray, Lord Jesus, that when you go through your healing process, it doesn't take that long. I pray for you to have a adequate healing time and adequate healing experience because if you don't heal, you won't be able to truly feel. Think about that for a second. If you don't heal, you will not have the opportunity to truly feel. Yo, DJ, drop that beat. If you don't heal, you don't have the time to truly feel because you've heard a rebound in relationships. Oh, I just got out of a bad relationship. Oh, catch the rebound off the backboard. And the person that you rebound with may think you're a great, wonderful person. Or the situation that you rebound with may think that you're a great fit. The job that you rebound with may be like, you know what, you're perfect for us right here. But if you don't allow yourself to heal, we're going to possibly end up back at square one. If not, negative square forty-five. You get my gist on that? If you don't allow adequate time to heal, you won't be able to feel the blessings that's in front of you. If you don't allow yourself adequate time to heal, you will not be able to feel the blessings in front of you. And once you allow yourself the adequate time to heal, to truly heal from the lessons that you've learned, it's time to get up, stand up, and move on. Move on. And the best thing about the lessons that you've learned and then you allow yourself the time to heal, not on anybody's watch, but your own watch. And when you feel like you've healed, then you can get up, stand up, take that step and move on. Move on to your blessings. Move on to the bigger, better things in life. Move on to a greater love that you've never, ever experienced. Move on to a new place, a new happy place, a new starting point in your life. Because literally, you write your chapters. You write your story. This is your journey. And there's only one person that can live your life. Not your mama, not your daddy, not your sister, not your cousin, not your auntie, not your granny. There's only one person that can live your life. And that's you. Somebody's just in the background that says, Duh. Well, nah, obviously. If it's Duh, would you be listening right now? If it was Duh, would you be going through the same experiences now? If it was Duh, you get what I'm saying. It's easier said than done. That's the biggest thing about learning, healing, and moving on. Is you gotta start somewhere. A lot of people skip to that move on part. And they don't allow themselves to heal. They skip right to the move on part without learning anything. We try to jump to the move on part because we don't want to deal with what has already transpired and happened in life. And trust me when I tell you, I was He. He is I, and I am Him. That was me. But I had to learn. I had to learn that it's okay. It is okay. People think learning piano takes a really long time. That it is okay. We ain't talking about pianos. That it's okay to be where you're at in life. It is okay to take a break. It's okay to take a break in your life. To reevaluate, to evaluate the choices and decisions and the happenings in your life. And learn from those choices and decisions. Things that are out of your control, they're out of your control for a reason. But control the things that you can control. Evaluate your situation. Evaluate where you are currently in life. And just like I started there, in order to evaluate, you're going to have those trip-ups in life yourself. And it is okay. Because in that moment there, my thoughts were coming faster than what my mouth was going. And I tripped up and I stuttered there. But what did I learn in that moment? Calm down. Take a breath. I learned from that. Healed from it pretty quick. That's why I'm able to keep moving moving on. And I hope that what we're having here in this moment, in this conversation, in this podcast tonight, that we learn, we heal, and then we move on. Because there's a bigger, better prize for you at the end of that rainbow. There's a bigger, better prize. It's a happy ending at the end of that story. It's a new beginning waiting for you when you end that chapter. When you learn, and you allow yourself to heal, and then we can move on. I want you to have an awesome life. I want you to have an awesome day. And I want everything in your life to be awesome! You dig? Yes, sir. Thank you for spending time with me. Thank you for finding the time just to hang out in the vibe with me. Because I don't do this for me. I don't do this for you. Because I don't do this for me. I don't do this for we. I do this to help you. This has been Open-Minded. And I'm your host, Papa Silk. Peace, love, and hair grease. And I'm out.