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The information discusses the five love languages and how they can enrich relationships. It emphasizes the importance of understanding your partner's love language and using that knowledge to show love and affection. The five love languages are words of praise and affirmation, quality time, giving and receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. It provides examples and tips for each love language. Do you know your partner's love language or the love languages of your closest family and friends? Keep watching to discover how you can enrich you and your loved one's lives in countless ways. Everyone gives and receives love in various ways. Of course, each of us has all these traits to varying degrees. But by observing your loved ones, you can discover which ones are the strongest and most effective of the five love languages. A thoughtful gift may be the sweetest gesture ever for a certain person. A gentle touch may feel more powerful than words to another. Let's use the example of two people who are in a relationship. Whether your partner prefers uplifting words, touch and affection, giving and receiving gifts, thoughtful acts of service, or quality time together, their love language tells you two things, how your partner loves and how your partner wants to be loved. So how do you work with your partner's love language? The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a wonderful guide to developing relationships of lifelong love. This book details the five ways people give and receive love and how anyone can use this knowledge to make their relationships with others more affectionate, compassionate, and caring. Let's start with number one, words of praise and affirmation. This one is personally my second strongest love language. It's in my nature to see the best in people and let them know how impressive and incredible they are. Does your partner enjoy compliments? Do they say I love you or I appreciate you many times a day? And they adore and really appreciate the same from their partners. If you want to tell your partner you love them, express your feelings face to face. Write them a note, a poem, or letter. People with this love language are happy to know in words why you care about them. Otherwise, your feelings may not be received as fully as possible. This can be difficult for people who keep their feelings to themselves. But if your partner has this love language, expressing yourself with kind words is the key to their heart. One of my daughters has this love language as her strongest. And I remember that when she was a little girl, and it was after a long cold winter, she was wearing a spring dress with exquisite pastel colors. I told her how beautiful she looked, and she smiled, and her face lit up with pure joy. And she immediately, at the young age of four years, said, and you look so very handsome, Daddy. She creates the most beautiful handmade cards for special occasions for all of her friends and family. And they arrive in the mail in colorful hand-drawn envelopes. She's one of those teachers who positively and deeply impacts her students, and inspires them now and throughout their lives. She attracts many close friends into her life as she exudes this kind and thoughtful trait of sincere words of affirmation and praise, and touches them all in enduring and meaningful ways. For example, when your partner gets dressed up or just gets their hair done, give them a compliment. If they just cooked a delicious meal for you, be sure to tell them how much you enjoyed it. You can also find many opportunities to surprise your partner with happy cards, notes, or even whispering sweet nothings in their ear. How romantic. Number two, quality time. This is the language my second daughter resonates with. She goes out of her way to spend special time with those she loves. She will drive an hour both ways just to come and visit me and ride bicycles together. She knows that it's one of my favorite pastimes. And even though she has an extremely busy schedule, she'll stay and walk our dog together with the family, and then sit down and eat together, and afterward watch a comedy with us. Hmm, I just remembered, she'll also bring gifts of freshly baked bread. Is that an act of service, or gift-giving, or both? It just goes to show you that we can all show each other love in so many ways. Another example of her demonstrating quality time is the way she plans and organizes special get-togethers for friends and family. Fun parties with food and drink and memorable times together with one another. For this love language, nothing is better than time spent together. You don't even have to do anything extravagant. You don't have to go on an expensive vacation, although there's certainly nothing wrong with that. Just set aside time to spend alone with someone you love, because that will mean the world to them. To use this language, reserve time in your schedule for someone you care about. You could share a cup of coffee and breakfast in the morning. You could plan a fun date once or twice a week, or take a walk together during golden hour. Whatever you choose, find time to give your partner your undivided attention. Meeting people's primary love language consistently will fill up their love tank and help them feel loved, just like they deserve. Quality time is a love language that is about being together, fully present, and engaged in the activity at hand, no matter how trivial. 3. Giving and Receiving Gifts Does someone you love jump up and down for joy when you give them a present? Okay, it's me. I think gifts are my third strongest language. Do they cherish every gift you've ever given them? Yes, I do. For many people, giving gifts is the perfect way to demonstrate your love. A gift represents the feelings of the gifts giver. Take your time and think of a thoughtful and specific gift that shows how strong your feelings are and that you deeply love them. If your partner has this love language, make a list of gift ideas and add to it as you're inspired. Just stay aware, and if you pay attention, they'll give you little hints from time to time. My amazing partner does this consistently, finding gifts and saving them all year long to share at special moments. I enjoy giving gifts so much that I usually can't wait, and I give them to my loved ones immediately without waiting for that special occasion. On holidays and anniversaries, this list will come to your aid. If you have the discipline to wait, that is. You can also remember memorable times from their childhood. It gives me great joy to share photos and videos from a while ago to remind us of fun things we did together, or souvenirs from a special time you spent together. Remember, it's about how much thought and effort you put into it, not how expensive your gift is. One time, the love of my life gave me a small notebook with a month full of sweet notes about the many ways she loved me, and she would always write little love notes on napkins to put in the lunches she made me to bring to work. They were so precious to me that I saved all of them. Number four, acts of service. My wife is the most incredible example of this I've ever witnessed. She'll exhibit all of the five love languages, and she selflessly spends time and effort giving of herself for the total benefit of others. She'll have coffees together with friends, and give thoughtful and compassionate advice just in the course of sitting down together in conversation, or going for walks and hikes. Even talking on the phone for hours while she's busy doing things for the family. Wow, now that's love in action. I show my love for her with acts of service, such as washing the dishes after she makes an amazing meal and dessert every night, and by taking out the trash. My mom is another perfect example of this way of showing love. She raised six kids as a single mom, working two full-time jobs, and sleeping for only three or four hours a night for many years. I don't even understand how that's physically or humanly possible. That's true love. I need my seven, eight, nine hours. I tried her schedule for about two days, and it failed miserably, and it can even be total strangers that can do such kind and wonderful acts of service that deeply affect you for your entire life. Don't you find that? When you show love and do whatever you can, even to strangers, doesn't it fulfill you and make you want to do it even more? I have friends who are like this. They do many things every day, selflessly and with unconditional love. I'll give you just two examples of many. They help blind children, spending time with them and doing fun things together, giving them confidence and experiences of joy that I'm sure mean the world to them, and you can see it in their faces. They also help people who have lost arms or legs, raising funds to help them, getting their prosthetics and improving their lives, spending time with them, and finding ways for them to get physical therapy and make their lives easier. They're so inspirational for me, again, such true love. Does your partner do small favors for you? Do they make you breakfast or write you thoughtful notes? An act of service is anything that makes your partner's life easier. Maybe you sweep the floor for them when they're cleaning the house, or go shopping so they don't have to, or cook a meal for your partner when they're stressed. The tour itself isn't that important, it's the message that counts. To your partner, that message is like saying, I love you. So go out of your way to help your partner and loved ones. If you can do that, they will always feel loved. Number five, physical touch. An excellent example is my son. Some guys will punch each other in the arm, gently please, just to show their camaraderie and how much they appreciate their fun time together. We all love cuddling with our dog, who gives us unconditional love. My son combines all five languages so seamlessly and selflessly that it's difficult for me to fully understand which one is his strongest, but it all comes out in such an extraordinary blend of truly compassionate love that it's a wonder to watch and experience. My brothers and sisters are the same way. I like observing them and noticing how they demonstrate each one of the languages. It's quite fun for me. I'm sure it will be for you as well. Does your partner like to hug and cuddle? Do they like to take your arm wherever you go? Some people value physical touch highly. It's quite funny when all our friends and family are leaving after a get-together. The hugs just continue on and on for a long time. A warm hug, a kiss on the cheek, or a touch on the arm, each of these shows that you notice and care about them. Physical touch is especially important in social situations. A little physical touch will remind your partner that you see them and enjoy being around them. With this language, intentionally touch your partner, even if it's not your natural inclination to do so. Give them a hug or a kiss often. Rub their neck lovingly and hold their hand when you're sitting together. Touch their arm while you're talking. These touches may seem small and insignificant, but for some people, a warm touch signifies all the love that you have to give. Let's say he comes home to his family from a stressful day at work. She shows him love by touching and massaging his neck and shoulders, and he feels very loved and appreciated. He responds to her love language of acts of service by playing with the kids, washing the dishes after dinner, and then taking out the heavy trash bins to the street for pickup in the morning. Simple, yet thoughtful. What's your partner's love language? How do you and your partner give and receive love in different ways? My wife grew up in a family that rarely hugged or gave each other words of praise or support. When she read this book, she realized that my love language was words of praise and physical touch. So it didn't come naturally for her to express her love for me in those ways. After years of marriage, she says she's still working on it, but I can tell you that she has come a long way since our first rough years of marriage when neither of us knew each other's love language. I have also had to work on acts of service, her love language, but I must be doing better because she's always thanking me for helping out with chores or that she's giving me words of praise. The love languages are all intertwined, so when we express our partner's love language, they often can't help but express ours. This way, they build upon each other, so our relationship keeps improving, we are happier, and appreciate each other more. There can be so many more examples. If your family and friends show their love, observe how they do that. That can give you great ideas on how to enhance the love in your own life and those around you. If you want to dive deeper into the wonderful world of rewarding relationships, be sure to subscribe and hit the reminder bell. We'd appreciate any feedback and your stories in the comments below. Click on this next video for more on top advice on how to have more health, wealth, happiness, and love in your life.