Episode 30 - Body Ewan Mic

The speaker is discussing their conversation with Sean about how he stays lean all year long. Sean emphasizes the importance of finding your why, systematizing your process, and celebrating progress. They talk about the significance of the emotional aspect behind making healthy food choices and how it affects various aspects of life. They also touch on the societal influence on diet choices and the need to prioritize health. The speaker concludes by mentioning the importance of setting goals, planning, and taking actionable steps towards achieving them. So where all this stemmed from is, yeah, I know a lot about nutrition and food, and I've exercised more or less my whole life. I know a lot about many different diets as I know all myself, but when I asked Sean to break down his recipe for how he gets results, not just another fad diet, but how does he stay lean all year long, because I know how I do it, but I was very curious on how he did it. And he said, I thought I knew what he was gonna say, and it totally blew my mind. And that doesn't happen often. So I was very impressed and thought, we have to talk about this on the podcast. So you're actually gonna find his recipe for this in the show notes. So you can download that. It's free, and I strongly advise it. I had never seen anything like it before, but if you wanna walk around like a Greek god, like Sean, just download that deal, and it will happen automatically. No, no, not really. You'll have to put a little effort in, but yeah. So Sean, tell us more, man. What was the question I asked you the other day? What would you tell one of your coaching clients that came to you and said, how do I get lean? What is your system and process? And what did you tell me? What was your first thought when I asked you that? Yeah, man, so the first thing that popped on my mind was the free, what I like to call the ingredients. So free ingredients, and it's different for everybody, and this is what I've learned from my experience that has worked best in my life, and I've also seen it with cooking clients, and they apply it in their own life, and it's just super powerful. So the first one is, find your why. Second one is, systematize your process. And then third one is, progress. Seeing the micro results, the celebrating the small and big wins. Yeah, so most people hear diet, and they think, what food do I need to eat? What restrictions do I have? You know, people think about the result they want, but the first thing that you said was, why? Why are you even bothering doing it? And man, as soon as you say that, most people, you listening to this, you know too, you probably know all the information you're about to say. We know if you eat good, your body's gonna be in good shape. But you said the why portion, and that, to me, it was initially, well, yeah, that's the question, because it means sustainability. Because you can go on a fad diet, you can get in good shape, but then, lo and behold, okay, so you've done it before. If you're not in the shape you want to be in right now, but you've done a diet before, how on earth did that happen? You were on the diet, and it changed, and now you're back to where you were. So what does that, what would you tell one of your clients there, Sean? What we really have to come down to is, there's the how and the what, right? And so a lot of times, society, they give us the how and the what. You know you need to eat broccoli, you know you need to eat healthy, you know you need to do exercise, you know you need to work out, right? But what we're not focusing on first, I learned this the hard way too, because I used to do the how and the what. Then when I started focusing on why, why am I doing what it is, why do I want to put healthy food in my body? And for me, it got to a point where it's like, I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, right? And so once I started breaking things down and understanding why I want to eat healthy foods, why do I want to put broccoli, why do I want to eat healthy ingredients in my foods, and for me, personally, man, in the big picture of things, and this is super, I'm gonna see if I can explain this well, this is, so when it comes to ingredients, right, when I think about it, so a cookie, right? And so you have a cookie, you have a cookie crumble, and you eat the cookie, and then you feel good in that five or 10 minutes. But then afterwards, you feel like crap, you show up differently, and you fall flat right on, literally on your rear end on the couch, right? But then you eat broccoli, then you eat something healthy, then you eat something whole foods, and you show up differently. You show up differently for your spouse, you show up differently for your employees, your community, your friends. And so for me, that's an emotion behind it. Like, I didn't like falling flat on my rear end on the couch and not wanting to talk to my wife or not wanting to hang out with a friend or go on a travel because I didn't feel like it. So my emotion behind the why was, because it allows me to, not only allows, builds the confidence in how I show up in every single day, but for hanging out with my dogs, and my dog, when I walk in the door, do I feel like crap because I just got done eating a buffet and I don't wanna hang out with my dog, right, Tripp? Or do I feel fantastic because I decided to make a healthy choice because I tied emotional compelling nature behind the why, now I eat a healthy, clean meal, and now I get home and I play with my dog, Tripp, because he's not guaranteed tomorrow, right? Same thing with kids, same thing with my wife. And so for me, it's about how I show up, and I leverage that feeling and apply it to everything that I do in life, and this is tied to food. And I apply this same concept, this same ingredient to other areas of life, finding the why. And for me, it's very powerful. So the next time I decide, am I gonna have a pizza, or am I gonna have a cookie, am I gonna have a buffet, what choice am I gonna make, well, it's easy for me now because now I just tie that emotional compelling nature behind it, I know how I'm gonna show up for my dog, for my wife, for my employees, for my friends. I'm gonna feel like on cloud nine, I'm gonna feel fantastic, I'm just gonna show up differently. Yeah, you know, it makes me, I've heard this, and everyone's probably heard this before, the analogy of, what if you put diesel in your gas engine, what is the result? And just think to yourself for a quick second, you don't, just we all know what's gonna happen there. And same if you put gasoline in a diesel engine, it's just not gonna run right. Why is it so hard for us to know, it's easy to know that. Why do we not think of the same terms with our body? You know if you put sugar, it's gonna make you inflamed, and you eat enough of it, insulin, that's how diabetes ends up happening, right? Like the body cannot handle the amount of glucose that's in the system. Why do we do that to ourselves? Do you ever think, why were you doing it to yourself? Was it just not willing to be, wanting to take the time to be aware, or is it just sheer lack of knowledge? I think for myself, probably just wasn't paying attention. Yeah, no, it was definitely, I just wasn't, like I told you yesterday behind the scenes, when you had asked me the question, one of the first things that popped in my mind was, I just wasn't making it a priority. It just was not important to me. And on top of that, right, I didn't have somebody, a podcast, somebody in front of my face, saying it in my ear, every single day, shedding the light on it, right? And really at the end, even grasping it, instead I just stuck with what I was familiar with, which is eating pizza, eating cookies, because that is what society's doing. That's what everybody's doing around me. So if everybody else is doing it, I guess I need to do it as well, right? Because I wanna feel a part of the tribe, the community, and that's what everybody else is doing. But when you, the key ingredient of finding your why, you don't care what everybody else is doing, right? You can still be a part of the tribe and community when you find your why, and then here's the cool thing. You ready for this? I am. Other people wanna come with you. That's right. When you have that why, because then- People ask you, how'd you do that? How'd you do that? There's hope, there's belief, because they know, just like I knew, I was just existing. I was falling flat on the couch, being miserable, sick and tired of being sick and tired. Someone that hasn't experienced this before, how do you get them to take that first leap? So it's a why, is that a, what would be your first piece of advice then to get their why? Because you've had multiple coaching clients at this point having issues with how they wanna look or feel health-wise, physically. What's some of the first steps? And again, this is gonna be in the show notes, so you can actually work through this and have the same results that Sean's clients have gotten, but what's just maybe a snippet that could help people understand this is gonna be worthwhile for them to look at? So three things that I like to break down, and this is, I think we're gonna go dive deeper on this in our podcast moving forward on the New Year's resolution as far as setting goals, my planning process. Little plug for the next week's episode. Yes, so one of the things that I always break down is, what is it which is lose weight, a better version of yourself, showing up differently for your spouse, your kids, feeling better, sleeping better, so what is it? You write that down. The second one is why. So why, you have to tie, you have to basically tie an emotional propelling nature behind it on what it is that you want because it just won't be sustainable if you don't have a strong enough why behind it. And the third thing is the steps, right? What steps do you need to do moving forward? Once you have those three micro-ingredients, man, I've applied in my life, and it wasn't perfect, but over time, I was able to make adjustments, make tweaks in my own life to get to where I wanted to go, weight-wise and health-wise, food-wise, and then that leads us to our second ingredient, which is to systematize the process. Yeah, so yeah, let's go a little deeper on that. When you systematize your process, what did it look like before and then what did it look like after? There was no system. Yeah, and I don't think, that's, man, very important what you just said. There was no system. And it doesn't need to be some complex rocket science, does it? It's probably quite simple. That doesn't mean it's easy. We probably say that every episode we talk, but that's life. It's very simple, the knowledge, but it's difficult to implement. So there was no system. You realize there wasn't, and then what? Yeah, so once you find that, so once you start, once you have your why, right, and then you become this unstoppable force and you have something to tap into, which is emotional and keep you coming back, the number two key ingredient, systematize the process. So you wanna, what I have found is you wanna make it easy. You wanna make it simple. And that's what I mean by systematizing it and having a process so it can be just on a repeat, like just an automation-type situation. And here's the key, right? This is where you have to be patient. Give yourself grace, and it's gonna take some time. It's not just gonna happen overnight. It's not gonna just happen within a couple days. A lot of people beat themselves up and derail with more food, P.S. I know, I've done it. You've been so good two weeks in, killing it, a party shows up or a weekend comes up and your emotions are weak, your discipline just disappears. You eat that Cheeto, you have that Oreo, and bang, the whole box is gone. And then you just have derailed yourself. Then the next week is, you've already blown it, so you just eat more poor stuff. And then a month, four months, four years later, and you're still eating poorly, right? I mean, that's just what happens. Yes, and the system, the second ingredient, the systematizing it will, and I'll be completely transparent. I'm imperfect, too, right? And then I slip up, it happens. But I get back up on that saddle the next day, right? I don't wait a week, I don't wait two weeks, I don't wait a month because I have the system, because I have the process down pat. And you can do it, too. And one of the things that was very hard for me the first couple weeks, and even the first month, is to systematize and find out what worked best for me. And what I have found as a human being, and I'm sure you can probably resonate with this, is keeping it super simple and finding the foods that I enjoy and that I'm gonna eat on a regular basis, that's a systematization. I don't have to change it up every single day. The breakfast that you made this morning, what's the H-E-B, the little, is this thing, he puts it on a plate for me, and it is, I asked him today, twice I've asked you now, where'd you get those? It's H-E-B, what were they called again? Can't tell you, it's a secret. Oh, gotta download the recipe in the show notes. There you go. Yeah, they are delicious. I wonder if I, I was thinking, man, could I make that myself, and I was like, it's not gonna taste this good. The ingredients are pretty simple, I'm sure, but man, they taste really good. But yeah, so that's, I was also thinking Atomic Habits, James Clear, environment. If you have candy, or you've got cake in the fridge, candy in your pantry, chips hanging around, you will grab that, and so there's a major hurdle right off the bat, if you can reduce those things and replace them with healthier options, that's a huge portion of the battle. I know that's true for me. If, and it's scientifically proven too, if you don't watch a lot of TV, go put your remote in the attic, and you will not watch as much TV. If you turn your couches around from your TV, you'll not watch more TV, so you've controlled the environment there. It's hard to go get that remote, and so you just don't, you go, if a book's laying next to you, I'll just read the book, or whatever. And that's true with food too. Like, if you have a big bowl of fruit laying around, and the candy's at the store, and you're hungry right now, you're gonna eat that fruit, for sure. People ask me all the time, like, man, you're so disciplined, right? Well, the fact of the matter is, I'm lazy. I love that you said that. I just said it for the record, I am a lazy individual. People do not get that from you at all, and you're just hitting them in between the eyes with that. You've told me before, and I love to hear it. Yeah, so, by doing the second ingredient, systematizing the process, it's allowed me to, all that is, is discipline, right? It allows me to follow a blueprint. It allows me to follow the blueprint that I enjoy doing. So, by making it easy, like you had said, with setting yourself up for success in the environment that you're in, if the cookie's there, or the banana's there, which one are you gonna eat? You're probably gonna eat the cookie, right? I know I would, because I'm lazy. So, systematizing it, you're replacing it with a banana, or a healthier option in your environment. And, well, Sean, my wife and my kids, I've got all these other things. Okay, cool, yeah, you're right. You just gotta evolve and adapt, and it starts with you, because you're the leader. You're the one listening to this. You're wanting to level up and live. So, it starts with you. Is it gonna be perfect from the start? No, it's not. So, it starts with you, and you gotta just put one foot in front of the other, and start testing the waters. Another little tip that I'll give you is, for me, is, I didn't like cooking. Man, I can't stand cooking, right? Because you gotta clean up the mess, it takes forever, two hours. And I found myself, I'm like, I'm not cooking, so you know what I would do? That's right, I'd go get Chick-fil-A. I'd go get a pizza. I'd go get something that was super easy. Easy. Right, because it wasn't systematized. I was super lazy, and I'm tired. The brain doesn't wanna think. No. Man, you just said there, I shouldn't have interrupted, but brain tired, it's not got the willpower, or whatever you wanna call that, so it does what's easy. If you're not prepared, environment's controlled, at your weakest moment, because you know the weakness is coming, there's no way you can be 100% all the time, so when you are weak, you're prepared. That on that tip, I remember I replaced candy, and whatever else with protein bars, like healthy protein bars. Protein is a great way to really minimize your hunger, because that really fills your stomach up. The same with calories on things that have high calorie content, like nuts. They got fat, they're higher in calories, so that can subside your hunger, as opposed to carbs. You burn straight through them, and it's the sugar spike. You're gonna feel great for a minute. Serotonin, dopamine gets released, and your blood, the sugar spikes, and then it drops, and then you need more to get back up there, and that's the rollercoaster. That's why you keep going back, and the only reason I know that is I have observed myself for decades on that's how it works. That's why you end up always finishing the whole box of Oreos, or a bag of candy, because it doesn't satisfy, it doesn't fill you up. Just another tip on environment-wise. Again, this will be all in the three recipes in the show notes. Awesome. One of the tidbits that I wanted to give is, for me not cooking, for not liking to cook, I had to search for answers, right? Again, normally when I'm fatigued, tired, and I don't want to search for answers, and I don't want to research, what happens when you don't have your why? You stop, dead in your tracks. Comes back to the why. Yeah, so it always comes back to your why. So that's step one. That's key ingredient one, right? You've gotta, in order to have that recipe, in order to have that beautiful sourdough, we're on sourdough. Yeah, we're loving some sourdough. Sourdough. No grains, so gluten. There's no gluten in sourdough, so. Exactly. So the ingredients in there, right, and then you take that first bite out, and then you, when it gets out of the toaster, all the ingredients come together. It's the same thing we're talking about right now. You can't leave ingredients out. So coming back to your why when you're fatigued, when you're tired, and for me it was, okay, well, I don't like going to the grocery store. I don't like cooking, so what's the solution? H-E-B app has a super thing where it's order again. Cool, go click on the order again, and it's the same meals, right? Because it's already systematized, so I go in there, it takes two minutes out of my day to go in there and click, and if I want to add additional things, or additional produce, then I'll go in there and add it, but it's done, boom. You don't want to do, oh, Sean, with delivery service? Okay, cool, well, now they have pickup. You can do pickup from H-E-B, Kroger. There's, but my point is, is when you have the why, you're gonna figure out a solution. Yep, so that was the why, and then to run it home on the last ingredient here, what would you tell the audience here? So the last ingredient is going to be, we're human beings, right, and what do we want as human beings? We want to see progress, right? You want to see the micro results. You want to, and what I would encourage you to do, and this is what I did, celebrate the small or big wins, right? And it doesn't have to be like, oh, man, I started eating healthy, and within 24 hours, you're not gonna see a six pack, right? That's what you're trying to do, or you're trying to drop five pounds. To me, it doesn't matter about that. What matters is, how do I feel? How am I showing up? Am I feeling any, like, on a scale of one to 100, am I 1% better than I was yesterday in showing up for my kids, my dog, my wife, my family, my friends? Do I feel better? Because we both know when you're talking to that individual at a coffee shop or at your work, you just don't feel good internally. You're like, this is miserable. Like, I don't like the way I feel right now, right? Is it because of your sleep? Is it because of what you ate that morning? Is it because of what you ate three days ago? The answer is probably yes, yes, yes, and yes, right? And to me, that is just existing. In order to show up the best version of yourself, like I know you, if you're listening to this podcast, I know you want to, you have to do and put these little small ingredients together and progress is the final one in the small and big wins. So if you feel, if you're like, okay, I'm gonna try it, and it wasn't 24 hours, you know what? I slept a little better. I showed up a little differently. I felt a little differently. Boom, that's progress. I don't care if it's 1%. You gotta celebrate the small little milestones. Okay, you know what? Sean, that's cool, that's not me. What about this? What about if you, right now, challenge you. You have cookies and snacks in your pantry. What if you went home and threw away one thing of cookies and then you replaced it with bananas? Boom, that's a small win. It means you're taking small steps and that's the progress, right? And then the key is, why? And then when you systematize, that creates discipline. And the third thing is progress. Boom, then you and your household, your kids start looking up to you, your wife starts looking up to you, your husband starts looking up to you, your family and your community, and then boom, you're making an impact with these ingredients all around you. How's your, you live by this. This is your ingredient, this is your recipe. Just people at your insurance agency, have you seen it impact them just by the way you are? 100%. The biggest thing with people around me in my community is that it's a journey. And you're gonna have days where you don't feel like putting the ingredients together. And it's so important to surround yourself with other individuals, listen to podcasts like this, go into accountability, have an accountability partner, having somebody that where you can keep, because what's the old saying? Out of mind, out of sight. And so if it stays in front of you, and you make it a priority, then it becomes important to you. And if it's important to you, then the right people will come into your life and they, because you'll continue to show up that way in becoming the best version of yourself. And so with people around me, by me doing this over and over and over and over again, I could have easily thrown in the towel, easily given up, and guess what? They would have too, because for whatever reason, right? The ingredient wasn't there. And I think that's why it's so powerful to be a good role model, to be somebody that is, that there's hope, right? And you can be that hope, you can be that person. And I always reference this movie, if you've seen The Matrix with Keanu Reeves. Oh yeah. Keanu Reeves is the one, right? So if you've seen The Matrix, the one, and I consider that in my life, in my community is like, dude, Sean, you're the one. Whether that's true or not, it doesn't matter, but that's what I believe. And I believe that in other people. Is that you're the one, but you want everyone to be the one. A lot of people say, I wanna be the one, I wanna be the star, and I want people to idolize. That's not what Sean is talking about. I've known him, he's like a brother to me. He wants other people to be that one as well, because then they're impacting their communities. And here's what we both believe, is that you can be the one as well. You can be the ingredient to the people in your lives that can make a difference. Man, one thing you said that I really picked up on was people want to look good, that's why they wanna get healthy, right? Which could be a why. Some people could really push through on that. But you're not gonna look good right away, and people don't see results quickly, they bail, right? Once you start seeing those results, you start feeling great. But you said, focus on feeling good. That's a great in-between time. Hey, you're going to look fantastic. You're gonna look like that Greek goddess. But in the meantime, before you get to the place that you wanna be, you're just gonna be upset or not happy until you get there. Well, that's not a good sign. So just focus on how good it feels to have energy, how good it feels. And you will look up one day, and you're gonna look great, and I have a feeling you probably might not be as interested in how good you looked anymore, because you're so happy about how good you feel. I've experienced that just with running in the conversations we've had. I really resonate with that. So if you are struggling with that, that's just another tidbit. But yeah, all this is, we give all the goods away right here, right? You'd be like, well, okay, now I'm done. Well, yeah, this is all the good stuff. We didn't wanna hold it back and have you go download this thing so we're forcing you to do it. But we just gave you all the good stuff. What is in the show notes, the link in there for the three-piece recipe, is the implementation. So if you liked what you've heard today, this is not your stereotypical, here's the food you should eat, and here's the food you shouldn't eat. Now this is way deeper, because food, emotional control, it goes hand-in-hand, and you gotta have these ingredients to succeed long-term, lifestyle. So Sean, I wanna say thank you to you for bringing this to everyone. To me, again, I know about food and all the macros and all the different scientific breakdowns of it, but the way you put that was son of her and her before, and I'm really glad we got to share it today. Yeah, man, really appreciate you. Absolutely, and just kind of a final nugget here, just make sure it'll be a journey, right? So you'll rinse and repeat. So once, it'll never be a final destination. You'll always continue to make adjustments. Even me doing this for multiple years now, is I'll continue to make adjustments and tweaks along the way to evolve as I evolve as a human being. It's beautiful, man. On that note, have a great day, everyone. Love, love, and live. Love you, brother. Love you too, man.