EPISODE6

In this episode of Speak On It, the host discusses three things to avoid: complaining, criticizing, and conflict. Complaining prevents good things from happening and attracts more problems. Criticizing exposes your own flaws and insecurities, and it's important to be uplifting instead. Conflict should be avoided by staying away from confrontational people. By applying these principles in daily life, one can experience more positivity and success. What's up you guys? It's your host Ando Bandos and we're back with another episode of Speak On It. Thank you guys for tuning in. For those of you who are new listeners, I ask that you like, subscribe, and pass this information forward if you find this information valuable for you and anyone else. Alright, without further ado, today we're going to talk about the 3 C's that you should avoid. Alright, you should avoid this at all costs if you can. At least be conscious of it and try to minimize it as much as possible. Alright, the 3 C's that we're going to talk about are complaining, criticizing, and conflict. Alright, those are the 3 C's that you should be avoiding. See, when you complain about things, you prevent good things from coming your way. You will never see the good in challenges, nor will you find the creative ways to make it a learning opportunity. Complaining typically stops all blessings. Not only that, it provides or enables more problems to come your way. It just adds more fuel to the problem. Alright, and you have to understand that when you are complaining, it's just something that's never going to stop happening. It's something that's going to continue to cause more friction, more irritation, and just moreover, the ability for you not to be able to see anything positive out of it. Let's take for an example, you're driving to work. Someone cuts you off, or the red light is longer than usual. What do we do? We instantly complain about it. Then what happens after that? More problems begin. Now you're either late for work, now you spilled your cup of coffee, dropped your phone on the console. It's endless problems. Endless problems. Why? Because you're complaining. You're so focused on the things that are going wrong that you can't see the good in the problem. Complaining only makes things worse. You have to find the good or learning opportunities when things don't go as planned. So don't complain. Look at the positive things. The second thing, criticizing. I really don't know why humans do this. And you know, I'll be lying or I'll be a hypocrite if I say I never criticized someone or talked about someone behind their back. I'm a human too. I'm a human too. It happens. But I try to be conscious and try to be aware of it and minimize it as much as possible. So criticizing only does two things. One, it exposes more of your own flaws and insecurities within yourself. Deep down, when you're talking about others, you're truly like hiding behind something. You're hiding behind your own imperfections. There's no way of you saying something to someone. We have no way of making others feel good about themselves. And the way that we make ourselves feel good about ourselves is we talk negatively about other people. There's something wrong with that. To a point to where you only can feel good about yourself by talking about others or downing others, that's an issue. That's an issue internally, and that's something that you probably need to work on within yourself until you can feel comfortable within your own skin. Instead of talking down on someone, instead of criticizing somebody, you should be more uplifting, finding more ways that you can provide some kind of encouragement, some kind of positivity towards that individual. Don't hide behind your own flaws and your own imperfections just to make yourself feel better or look good in front of or trying to please other people. Stop doing that. Stop doing that. We are so quick to downsize or to put someone else down, and we won't take for a second to say something positive or something good about somebody. I get it. The mind is ultimately like the most negative space for some people, for most of us. The majority of our thoughts are negative. The brain needs to protect us. But at the same time, you can have the ability to have the awareness of certain things that you are saying about other people. The golden rule, treat everybody how you would like to be treated. It doesn't change as you get older. It's the golden rule for a reason. You know what I'm saying? We are so hesitant to give somebody some encouragement, some kind of positive feedback. What the hell are we doing? What type of world are we living in that we can't put anything positive in our mind or speaking about someone else? That's crazy to me. In all actuality, the most deadliest thing on a human body is their tongue. Yup, it's the tongue. Not your hands, not your feet, not your teeth, not your mind. It's your tongue. The reason being, your tongue can spread joy and positivity to human life. Or it can do the complete opposite. It can spread evil and it can spread death. If you think about it, look at all the children who suffered from verbal abuse. Or hell, even the bullies. What leads to people being verbally abused? Not physically, but verbally abused. Cyberbullying, what happens? These individuals are so critically damaged that what do they do? They take their own life. Criticizing. Talking down on one another. Telling you, the tongue is the most deadliest thing on a human body. So stop gossiping. Stop gossiping about one another. Spread more uplifting affirmations to each other. And lastly, conflict. Avoid conflict. As simple as it may sound, it really is. Simple. Avoid conflict. Avoid conflict. Stop putting yourself around people or environments that you know aren't beneficial to your well-being. You ever had a friend that constantly stays in some shit, like no matter where they go? Or just constantly causing a ruckus, just complete chaos? These are the people that you do not want to kink with by any means necessary. Not even at church. Stay away from these people. Avoid confrontational people by any means necessary. And honestly, these type of people, these are the people who rob you from your actual joy. These people distract you from your goals and your overall success. They put you in environments that you don't need to be in and it can be avoided. So again, the three C's is simply complaining, criticizing, and conflict. So by all means necessary, please, if you can, give you guys some good knowledge, some good takeaways here. Take this information, apply it in your daily lives. Hope you got some value out of it. Thank you guys for attending another episode of Speak On It. See you guys next week. Peace out. This your boy Ando Vandos.