shadow self

The speaker discusses the concept of the shadow self, which refers to the darker, ignored aspects of our personality. They explain that embracing and integrating the shadow self involves self-awareness, control, and understanding. The process includes asking tough questions, practicing radical acceptance, challenging societal and personal scripts, incorporating the shadow into daily life, and recognizing projections onto others. Integrating the shadow is seen as a continuous journey of self-discovery and personal authenticity, akin to playing a strategic game. The speaker encourages the listener to become the director of their own life and embrace both light and shadow to grow and realize their potential. So, you've got your normal self, and then you've got like your dark side, alter ego, which Carl Jung calls your shadow self. And before people in the comments call this cringe or people take it in the wrong way like Sigma, like Ohio Skippy D Riz, I don't mean your shadow self as in the thing people say on TikTok when they say they see red in a fight, I'm talking about a genuine psychological concept. This process is about embracing the darker, and often the ignored facets of our personality, much like the character Anakoji Kiyotaka, who with his calm demeanor and strategic mind embodies the essence of shadow integration through self-awareness, control, and understanding of oneself. And in today's video, I'll show you how to integrate your shadow self. So let's begin. So let's kick off things by diving deep into your own psyche. Think of it as like Anakoji planning his next move, except instead of plotting in the shadows, you're shining a light on them. So grab a journal, find a quiet spot, and start asking the tough questions. What are the parts of you that you've been ignoring or pushing away? This isn't about self-criticism, it's about curiosity and openness. Be honest, be raw, and most importantly, be patient. Uncovering the nuances of your shadow self is like peeling an onion. There are many layers, and yes, it might make you cry, but it's worth it. So you want to be asking tough questions, you want to be finding out, diving deep into like the traumas that you've been hiding, and pretty much just shine a light onto everything. I'm not going to give you any guiding questions because it's going to be different for everyone, but you want to basically go to a quiet spot, get your journal out, and even if you had to be there for two hours, try to find what you've been like hiding from yourself. Make it raw, make it truth, and make it something that's like, make it individually personalized to you. I don't know what questions that I should ask, or what questions you should ask. And also this is step by step from Carl Jung's book. So next we're going to do is radical acceptance. Now here's where you channel your inner Anakoji cool demeanor. Instead of keeping emotions at bay, you're going to welcome them in. Radical acceptance is about seeing all those shadowy aspects of yourself and saying, okay, you're part of this journey now too. It's not about liking or approving about everything you find, it's about acknowledging it. Maybe you're secretly jealous of a friend's success, or you realize you're holding onto bitterness. Whatever it is, acknowledge it. It's power in naming these shadows because once you do, they start to lose their hold over you. This is the next step from Carl Jung's playbook. Anakoji doesn't accept the status quo, and neither should you. It's time to question why certain parts of you ended up in the shadows. Why do you feel certain ambitions are taboo? Why are some emotions off limits? This is about dissecting the societal and personal scripts you've been handed and deciding if you actually agree with them. Maybe you've been told that your whole life that nice people don't get angry, but here's the thing. Anger is a human emotion, and even nice people feel it. It's what you do with it that counts. So challenge those old narratives and write your own story. Now this is the interrogation, the art of bringing it all together. Interrogating a shadow is about eradicating the parts of you that you find uncomfortable. It's about letting those come to the party. Imagine Anakoji using every tool at his disposal to win. Not just his intellect, but his understanding of human nature, his strategic mind, and yes, even his darker impulses. You want to do the same here. It's about recognizing that every facet of your personality has a role to play, so start finding ways to incorporate your shadow into your daily life. If you've discovered a hidden talent, explore it. If you've undiscovered a repressed emotion, express it. Helpfully. This is about creating a more complete, authentic you. If you know that you always try to suppress yourself around other people and don't say bad things to their face, say it. The next step in Carl Jung's playbook is seeing through the projections. Remember when Anakoji figures out someone's motives before they do? That's a bit like projections. We often see in others what we can't face in ourselves. That irritation you feel towards yourself always lay front? It might be mirroring your own struggles with time management, or your fear of being disrespected. Start noticing when you're quick to judge others or criticize others. It's a signal post, pointing back to something within you. Understand this and change how you interact with the world, making you more compassionate to yourself and others. And to end it off, let's talk about the Life the Ultimate Strategy game from Carl Jung. As such, integrating your shadow like Anakoji approaches its challenges, with strategy, patience and an eye on the endgame. But remember, this isn't about winning or losing, it's about understanding and growth. Your shadow is a part of you, not an enemy to be defeated. Integrating it is a continuous journey, one that requires you both to be the player and the observer in a complex scheme of self-discovery. And embarking on this journey of shadow interrogation is like unlocking a new level of personal authenticity and freedom. It's about becoming the director of your own life, using all parts of your character, both light and shadow, to navigate the world of wisdom, courage and a deep sense of self-knowing. Just like Anakoji, you have the potential to be the master of your narrative, turning challenges into opportunities for growth and self-realization.