The silly little things..

The host of the podcast gives a recap of her recent vacation to LA with her family. She talks about getting sick before the trip but feeling better now. She loved the vibe and weather in California and had a great time visiting different places like Dodgers games, hiking to the Hollywood sign, and roller skating on Venice beach. She also watched a movie called "Fall Guy" at the Grove and highly recommends it. The trip helped her get out of a rut and she emphasizes the importance of changing routines to make positive changes in life. She then discusses the habit of putting ourselves down and comparing ourselves to others, urging listeners to focus on self-improvement while being happy for others. Hello, this is your host, Allie Hansen. Welcome or welcome back to the Overcome and Become podcast. Let's get motivated. Hello, this is your host, Allie Hansen, and welcome back to the Overcome and Become podcast. I am so excited to be here today. This is going to be such a good one, but let's get into a little life recap. And I really honestly just want to recap the little vacation that I just went on. So well, okay, I guess I'll say what happened before that. I did get sick. Um, that was really unfortunate. I was so sad because first of all, who gets sick in the middle of summer is my question. Like what's even going on there? And second of all, I was miserable. It was awful. But luckily I got an antibiotic, stopped feeling a lot better. It came and went in a couple of days. So that's a really good. And the only thing it interfered with was work. So I will be honest, my last paycheck was a little, a little little, but that's okay. We're back to work and I am feeling so much better now. I'm honestly feeling better than I felt in a really long time. I will be so honest with you, but this past weekend, Oh my gosh. I went to LA with my mom, dad, little brother, grandma, grandpa, my mom's parents. And it was seriously the best time. I know. Ooh, did I tell you guys about FSY? I can't remember. Did I tell you guys about FSY? Anyways, FSY was awesome. I legit cannot remember, but I know I said FSY was literally the best experience and it was like the spirit there spiritually. I feel like I'm just so on the iron rod. I'm on the straight and narrow path. I'm feeling good. But this vacation going to California literally just like rounded it up. It rounded up every area of my life. So you best believe I'm feeling so good. We went to some Dodgers games. We hiked up to the Hollywood sign. We went to Venice beach. We went to the Grove and it literally, first of all, can I just say California, please? You know what? I'm going to marry you because I am in love with California. It is very expensive. The traffic is awful there, but I fell in love. I've been to California quite a few times in my life, but for some reason this time just hit different. And I really do feel like it's because when I get older, I see things differently and I appreciate them in a different way, you know, because you look at prices. And so you appreciate the things that your parents buy more or you appreciate the vacation more or things just mean so much more to you because you know, you're going to be moving out of the house soon. And so it's just all those little things that really make me have so much gratitude for that. But I love the weather there. I love all of the greenery and just everything and the vibe there. I felt so like influencer. I felt like I could dress cute and page. Okay. I love page. I love my tiny little page town with the lake. It's so fun. But I feel like here I can go out in pajamas and like no one looks at me like, what the heck girl? Why are you in pajamas there? It's like, okay, you know, you, you might want to dress a little bit nicer. I don't know why it's just a culture, but I honestly love it. Like it just, oh, I just ate that up. It was so much fun. I got to roller skate in my pink and blue roller skates on Venice beach. So Barbie, you know what Barbie reach out to me, please. What is something Margaret, right? That's her actual name. Hit me up because I'd love to take a picture with you. That was, I wish I would have been in like a neon one piece because it seriously was so much fun. If you follow me on Instagram or TikTok, then you can see pictures of it. You can see videos of it. I felt just so Barbie girl doing it. And I literally checked something off my bucket list. So that was awesome. Hiking up to the Hollywood sign was kind of a last minute thing that we did ended up absolutely loving it. And then, okay, I have strong feelings about this last part. We went to the Grove. I've been there once in my life before. If you don't know what the Grove is, first of all, it's in Beverly Hills. They have restaurants and shopping and a movie theater, and it's just so beautiful and fun there. And I love it. But we were going to go see the new inside out movie because everyone has been raving about it and saying that you have to go watch it and it's so good. And so we were going to go to that, but it was all sold out. And so they also had obviously a bunch of different other movies you could watch there. So we ended up going to watch fall guy and I was kind of like, Oh, you know, is it going to be good? Because I originally really wanted to go watch inside out. Oh my gosh. When I tell you fall guy top three favorite movies for me, it is so good. And let me tell you why it keeps you engaged the whole time. There was not one dead part of that movie that I was like, okay, I'm waiting for this part to pass so I can get to the next part. It did not leave you on any sort of cliffhanger at all. It just closed it up so nicely. It was hilarious. But there was such a good message behind it. Oh my gosh, like a million out of 10 would recommend watching it. It was so good. And honestly, this seems so funny, but little things will impact me like that to where I just feel like I want to be a better person after watching that movie. And I want to work harder and I don't know, loved it would recommend if you're looking for a new good movie to watch. Overall, this trip was so much fun spending time with my family and especially my grandparents. And I just I don't know, I loved it. I'm feeling so happy. I'm feeling so good. I'm feeling out of the rut that I was in for a while and really, really struggling with like just bringing me down in every area of my life. I was like, what the heck? This is not me. I want to get out of this, but I couldn't figure out how to get out of it. So FSY trip to LA really transformed that for me. So I will say after all of that, a little lesson that I learned is if you are in a rut, especially if you're in a deep, deep rut, change your routine. And I'm not saying you have to go on vacation, but stop doing the same exact things that you normally do every day, because then nothing changes. And honestly, you're probably going to have to make some pretty drastic changes there in the beginning. Because when I was trying to get out of this rut, I kept being like, Oh, why I'm making changes, but nothing would change, you know, and then I literally got out of the normal environment that I'm in. And it really changed things for me. So do completely different things. If you feel like you're kind of just lacking and kind of in a pit in all areas and see what that does for you and see if you're really able to get out of it. But that's not saying like, I don't know if you're normally very healthy and stuff. I'm not saying like, just go eat fast food every night and every lunch and every day because that's going to defeat the whole purpose. You have to do things that are going to feed your body and fuel your body. But now that we're out of that seven minute recap, holy moly, let's get into this episode. And the silly little things. Oh, let me tell you the silly little things. So I want you to hear me out in the beginning. I am going to read you off a whole bunch of things. And I want you to just really think about these like let them resonate with you. She makes more money than I do. He's more defined than I am. They can read faster. She has a bigger house than I do. Gosh, he's so confident. They're so happy with what they see in the mirror. She was probably born with a big booty. I had to work for mine. Oh, they just have daddy's money. Oh my gosh, if I only have those green eyes, they can sing so well. Why are her teeth so perfect? Dude, he's always on vacation. That's not a real job. That is so inappropriate. She should not be wearing that. Think about these. Let them resonate with you. Think about how often we put ourselves down every single day by saying things like this. This was what what did I read off like maybe 20 examples of probably hundreds, even 1000s of things that we say every day. But then realize that there were a couple of those mixed into where we're just mean to people like, oh, they probably just have daddy's money, you know, like, we change our perspective, because it's the only way we can let things out. Because when we, okay, listen, when we are insecure, when we are not happy with what our daily life looks like, we put other people down, we start nitpicking good things about other people, and we put ourselves down for it. And really, it doesn't make sense. Because first of all, people have no place to judge. I do not care who you are. And this 100% includes me. I don't care who you are. I don't care who I am. It is never my place to judge anyone else. It's never my place to even judge my little brother, to judge my parents, to judge my older siblings, to judge my friends, to judge people that I've just seen off of like a first picture. Never will I be perfect enough to have the ability to judge other people. So I want you to think about that a little bit. And now I want you to think what if you could be so comfortable in working on your own bio individual self while being happy for others, because we are in such different phases of our life than the people around us. We are also different. We look different. We say different things. We have different body types. We have different career paths. We have different houses. So therefore, we cannot compare ourselves to other people, but we have to be able to work on ourselves while being happy for other people. Because yeah, maybe you are behind someone. Maybe, okay, this is such a generic example. Maybe you want a six pack, which by the way, people think is so not reachable. If you work for it, it 100% is reachable. But think about this, you want a six pack, maybe, I don't know, like your cousin's friend has a six pack. And so naturally, you just kind of put her down for it because it was like, oh my gosh, like deep down inside, you just wish you had that and you're putting her down because you're insecure because you want a six pack. But instead of putting her down, why don't you hype her up and be like, yeah, like, that's sweet. You know, I have been really going through this journey, and I'm working on it myself. We have to be able to build ourselves up while building other people up at the same time. What if you realized that we are all humans, and we're literally designed to make mistakes. And I know that's something that has been so hard for me to grasp and so hard for me to just accept. Because I'm like, no, like, why would I just tell myself that I know I'm going to make mistakes, but it is so true. I hated when people used to tell me that. And yeah, I might not make the same mistakes as everyone else. Or maybe, you know, at a certain point in my life, I don't make a mistake that people normally do. But without fail, throughout my life, I am going to screw up time after time after time. And everyone else around me is going to. And so that's something to remember, that we as human beings are literally designed to mess up. So we are not going to be perfect. Now, you know me, you know, I am obsessed with becoming the best version of myself, you know, and I talk a lot about on here is I, I want that for people like I want them to be so obsessed with becoming the best version of their self. But you can't be so obsessed with it to where you lose yourself in the process. And I speak from personal experience, I really feel like sometimes when I'm really hitting the grind, or I'm just so focused on that future picture, I forget about the moment, I forget what I'm living in, and I lose myself. So it's important to be so obsessed with becoming better, while being so present in the moment, and almost being more obsessed with the process of becoming better. Because think about this, and this is something that I've really had to think about, we have this picture of this better person, you know, we have this picture of the best Allie that I can be, I can visualize her in my head, I know exactly who she is. But here's the thing, I am never going to fully be able to make it there, because no matter what, there's always going to be something I want to improve on, right? So we have to remember that, that we aren't just working to hit a wall, we're working to get to a step, and then we're going to build off of that, and then we're going to build off of that, and then we're going to build off of that. And this is something that I had to teach myself, and I really, really had to learn because, and I have to constantly remind myself every day, that I'm not working to become a specific person in the end. I'm working to better myself every day. I'm working just to be better than the person that I was yesterday, so therefore, we cannot lose ourselves in the process of that, because you are always going to be in the process. There's no getting out of it, no matter what. Now, what if you just did things? Why do you do the things you do? Why do you work out? Why do you say what you say? Why do you eat the things you eat? Why do you dress the way you dress? Why do you work where you work? Okay? These are all questions that you can ask yourself, and I promise you guys, it is the small things. Now, let me tell you something. Small things seem so minor in our daily lives, but they deserve way more credit than they get. If you aren't happy with your life, look at the small things you are doing, because I promise that's probably going to have a major impact in the outcome of it, because at the end of the day, those silly little things are going to make or break you. Immediately, an example that I have that comes to mind, and some of you guys might follow them on social media, I would say they're pretty big influencers. They live in Arizona. Their names are Josh and Katie Bruckner, and they kind of, I feel like, are really big on YouTube, and I have followed them for a really long time. Before I got Instagram and TikTok and all those new ones, I watched their YouTube videos forever, but more recently, they just had a daughter a couple months ago. They named her Skye. She's adorable, and if you watch their little vlogs or even their little vlogs on TikTok and Instagram, every morning when they wake Skye up, they put her on her little pad where they have changed her diaper and stuff, but when they stand her up, they hold her in the mirror, and they go, look how beautiful you are, and they wait for her to giggle, and they say, look how smart you are, and they wait for her to giggle, and they just hype her up, and they give her those words of affirmation, and they feed it to her from such a young age. Why aren't we doing this now? Because we do this so much to little kids, right? It teaches them so much. Every time I see that, it seriously makes my day, because I hope and I would assume that that little girl will grow up having a pretty strong foundation in who she is because her parents made it a priority to raise her like that. They said, you know what? We want her from a very young age to know how cute she is. We want her to know how smart she is. We want her to know her talents, how athletic she is or how spiritual she is or whatever it may be. It is so important to do this now, and it seems so fun and cute for little kids to just hype them up. You hear that little giggle? For us, it's kind of like, oh, I'm a grown adult. Why would I do that? I'm a man. Why would I do that? I'm an old lady. Why would I do that? And it seems cringy in the moment, but it is a matter of what you are feeding yourself, because when you wake up in the morning, what are you looking at in the mirror? Are you like, oh my gosh, I don't look good today, or are you hyping yourself up? These are things that you have to think about. I'm going to be so honest right now, and I'm going to expose myself a little bit. I'm going to be very vulnerable here, but I lack a lot of self-discipline, as much as I hate to say it, because I talk so much about self-discipline on here and how you're never always going to be motivated, so you have to be disciplined. But I want to give a perfect example. I'm always on Instagram most of the time. I'm like, oh my gosh, I'm going to be so consistent. I'm going to post a podcast every week. They're going to be awesome. I figured out a new strategy to do it, and then what happens? I don't post for three weeks, and so then it's kind of like it shows that I'm a lot of talk and no game, right? It's like, oh my gosh, I'm going to do all these things, and then I don't do it. In fact, I fall off more than I was before, and I was sitting here, and I was like, why? Why do I do this? Because here's the thing. I figured it out. I do this because I'm not motivated all the time. I'm not always at the highest point in my life, and I don't always know what to share, but guess what? I'm not always going to be motivated. Every episode isn't going to be incredible and blow up like the last one, but before that, something I need to bring into my own life is you have to show up for yourself because here's the thing. It's absolutely right. This episode might not be as good as my last one or my episode next week might not be as good as this one, but it's a matter of showing up for myself. It's a matter of if I say that I'm going to post a podcast every week, I need to do it. If I set my alarm for a specific time, I need to get up and not snooze it. If I say I'm going to work out that day, I need to work out that day because this falls back into what you are feeding yourself because if you fall into this cycle of all talk, no game, which is what I have unfortunately fallen into and am climbing my little way back out, you will repeat this in every area of your life. Something so small that seems like when I post on Instagram and only 100 people on a good day watch my story, that's 100 people that know I said that I'm going to post a podcast every week and I don't do it. Not only am I not showing up for them, but I didn't show up for myself. I didn't hold myself accountable for what I said I was going to do. This is so important. You have to show up for yourself every single day because a quote I heard recently is you can't add more time to your life, but you can add more life to your time. 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