Ash and brit

Ashley and Brittany introduce themselves as "The Bitches" and talk about their experiences as moms. They have multiple children, some of whom are athletes. They decided to start a podcast to share their relatable stories and give advice, even though they don't always follow their own advice. They discuss the challenges of being a mom, dealing with mom guilt, and apologizing to their children when they make mistakes. They also talk about their kids growing up, experiencing relationships, and dealing with body image issues. Overall, they aim to provide a supportive and understanding community for other moms. Welcome to our first episode of Bitches Be Crazy. My name is Ashley and my name is Brittany and we are The Bitches. My name is Ashley and I have two beautiful, beautiful kids. One's name is Maddox and one is Tatum and they drive me bonkers but I love them so much. Well, Tatum is, she's 8 but she thinks she's 13. Maddox is 6 going on 7 and he is an all-star baseball player for the Braves. Brittany here has an also all-star baseball player in her life. I do. I have three children. I have Hunter who is about to turn 16 which has been mind-blowing that I'm even old enough to have a 16-year-old. I have Rayleigh who is 12 and Gavin who is my baseball player. He is turning 12 so I definitely have my handful there. On top of that, I have two bonus daughters who are 19 and 12 so yes, we are a family of many. We're those moms who try to find that healthy balance so yeah, we just wanted to say a little bit of who we are as people and talk about everyday life and we're not alone in this. I think our main objective of why we wanted to do a podcast is... We are really intelligent individuals that can relate to a lot of people. Yeah. Connections. Yeah, we have a good connection. We met each other working at our job and became close with how we connect with each other and how we talk. We have a lot of relatable situations and we just realized that we're not the only ones. Yeah, definitely. And we need a hobby. We work all the time and we're moms and we just need something else to do and I feel like I'm giving advice on things that we've been through that other people go through maybe won't make us feel so crazy. I feel like we're really good at giving each other advice. It's just so much not listening to our own... When it's directed at ourselves. Yeah. I can tell you how to be in a relationship. I can tell you how to get married, but guess what? Bitch, I'm not married. And I'm not in a relationship, so it's like... I don't know. We don't take our own advice, but we can give good advice. Definitely. Yeah. We're here for a good time. A good time. Not a long time. Hopefully a long time. Well, yeah. Hopefully a long time. I'm only 29. I'm not going to say how old I am. She's my mom. In the spirit of Mother's Day coming up, I think that would be a great place to start. What it means to be a mom and the mess that looks like on a daily basis. The imperfection. The unconditional love. Tantrums and the sass. But the I love you's and the hugs. You're the best mommy ever. But the I hate you so much. I don't have that yet. We're definitely on two different flame poles when it comes to being parents. We're definitely in two different age gaps. Yeah. Definitely. That's also, I feel like, a good thing for us, too, because the younger age of kids and Brittany has a little bit of an older. So we can reflect on that, and I can learn from her, and then she also can be reminded of the innocent. It's definitely... Yeah. Brittany tells me on the daily when I show her videos of my kids, and she's like... Oh, just wait. Oh, just wait. You just wait. She's going to hate you in five years. Yep. They do grow up to be assholes. So it is good for me to be reminded that they weren't always that way. They're not always wanting to sleep with you and be with you all the time. They don't want your friends to know who you are. I'm definitely going through the embarrassed of mom phase, but it's more of... I'm a MILF. You are a motherfucking MILF. I'm a motherfucking MILF. She's just too sexy. And so, yeah, learning how to be a mom to teenagers, that is not fun. I'm not ready. Yeah. You better enjoy that innocence while you can. I will. I'm going to. Yeah. I'm going to. I didn't tell you. I thought, I'm going to cut a mother-of-pears hand off. Shit just got real. Yesterday on my way home, well, Rachel called me yesterday on the phone and she left me a voicemail. Call me back ASAP. Bye. And I was like, oh shit, okay. So I call her back like 30 minutes later, because at that time I didn't realize like anything that went on. She was just like, so we have a situation. Tatum was in KU today and a little boy pinched her butt. Oh Lord. I was like, I'm going to cut a mother-of-pears hand off. Ain't nobody going to touch my baby that way. And so I got on the phone with Tatum and she was like, I was laying down and a little boy came and pinched my butt. I was like, did you tell that boy to not touch you like that? This is my body. She was like, well, I did after I told on him. I was just really nervous. She's got a little bubble butt. Yeah. It happens at an early age. And like she's eight years old. Yeah. She can't even wear some leggings to school because a little boy is trying to pinch her butt. Rayleigh was just telling me yesterday how a little boy told her, my ex, because we have exes at 13, my ex had a butt that was flat and your butt is like round. And I thought, my God, you know, we're starting early looking at each other's bodies and being interested in that. So it definitely starts early, but it's not only with boys. This is where the girls are looking at each other and comparing each other. I don't really get that with Tatum right now. If you bring up a boy, you have a boyfriend. Ew, no, I don't have a boyfriend. She's in that stage right now. Mine is, um, which one? Which one? Oh my gosh. I definitely have a player for a child. That's going to be Maddox. He goes, I don't have any girlfriends, but I have a lot of friends that are girls. He's like, I'm not allowed to have girlfriends yet, but when I am, I'm going to have a girlfriend. I was like, okay, well, I want to beat her fucking ass. I'm just kidding. I'm totally kidding. I haven't been there yet, you know, Hunter, he's, he's my oldest and he's not, I mean, he's just now getting to the point that he likes girls, but he's definitely my more like respectable of women, you know, he's seen, he's seen what you went through. Yeah. And he's more of a, I don't want to be like that. I don't want to have to settle down and answer to one girl. Like he says, mom, girls all get mad if you just talk to another girl, you know, bitches be crazy. Yeah. So he's not trying to deal with that right now. Yeah. What about Gavin? Oh, he is definitely a ladies man. I cannot take that kid anywhere. Oh, I remember I saw him at your wedding getting down there on the dance floor. Yes. He is my entertainer. He loves to make people laugh. He is there for a good time. He is definitely my social butterfly out of the group. Definitely. And the ladies love him. They flock to him. It's, it's crazy. How old is Gavin? Gavin will be 12 in June. 12. Gosh. So I have seven. He's going to be seven in July. So I'll have five more years. So I feel like it starts at like 10. Oh, definitely. Yeah. What year did they go to elementary school? Well, I thought elementary school. I mean, not elementary school, middle school. Well, it just depends. Like for us, middle school is seventh and eighth grade, but I feel like a lot of people do sixth, seventh and eighth grade. Sixth, seventh and eighth grade. Oh yeah. So it is now. They built a new middle school. Yeah. So it's like seventh and eighth grade. I feel like fifth grade is when they start getting like, having girlfriends and boyfriends. They're going out. They're dating. We're dating. Like where, where are you going out? Like. You ever walk to the park? I mean. Play in the water? You walk her to her classroom. Sit with each other at lunch. The biggest thing is, hey mom, can you buy my boyfriend or my girlfriend something for Valentine's Day? Yeah. Oh, I didn't realize I was in the relationship with them. Yeah. It's our money. Yeah. Being a mom and trying to work most of your days and being at work all day long and trying to not have that mom guilt of being gone all day. Trying to balance like, hey, now work is over and now it's time for me to transition into being a mom and what that looks like when you get home. A hot mess. Yeah. How do you cope with the mom guilt? Because that is a real thing. I think it's because I talk to my kids and I, I mean, I guess a part of me feels guilty, but I guess I don't because like I said, I talk to my kids and I let them know like, I'm not doing this because I don't want to be there. I'm doing this for you because I want to make sure you're taken care of. So they understand that. My kids are very appreciative. Like they know that I'm, I'm going to work because, you know, so I don't, I guess I don't have that mom guilt and like, so like with Victoria, she had mom guilt leaving to go on her trip. You still need to be your own person. So I guess it's just finding time for you and your kids are going to, even if they don't understand right now, they're going to understand it when they're older. Well for me, like I have mom guilt, you know, working 10 to 12 hours a day, you're gone from them all day. And then when you get home, you're wanting to unwind, you're wanting to have some type of release because you've been at work all day and you're anxious and tired and whatever your day looked like that day. And you know, you might not be chipper and peppy and give them your best self that day and you might even be in a bad mood and sometimes they might catch wind of that. For me, I have that mom guilt. I don't want to take it out on them or not give them my best version of myself, but I do fall short from that and I will feel guilty if I come home and I'm in a bad mood and I might have yelled at them for something. I think with that, like that's just, you're a human, like that's going to happen, like no matter what. So that's where you need to take the accountability of, wow, I said something I probably shouldn't have said or I did something I shouldn't have done. Do take the accountability, go to them, apologize, talk with them. If I say something I regret or I do something that I feel like was rude to my kids, I am really good about apologizing. Like I will go to them and be like, I'm sorry that I got upset with you or I'm sorry that I told you I didn't want to read the book right now, but let's do it right now. I'm sorry and I didn't mean it like that, let's do it now, kind of thing. I feel like a lot of mothers struggle with knowing just because you're the parent doesn't mean that you can't apologize too, you know, and I think that that also teaches kids. I apologize to my kids all the time. Oh, same, absolutely. But I feel like children live by example, so if you're showing them like, hey, you can humble yourself and say you're sorry, then you're teaching them that, yeah, you make a mistake, but the important thing is that you apologize. So, I definitely think that we as parents need to normalize saying that we're sorry because just because we're the adult doesn't mean that we don't do things. Right, yeah, because I can promise you my Tatum is very wise in her age and she'll call me out on my bullshit, so, and I'm like, oh my god, I'm a shitty mom, but I mean, I know that's not how she means it, she's just being like how I am with her, I'm not going to let her do something wrong, I'm going to call her out, I'm going to tell her, you know, this is what you're supposed to be doing, this is what you're not supposed to be doing, like, I mean, typical mom things, but I feel like a really big thing is not being transparent with your kids and saying sorry and things like that. Yeah.