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Rhea and Ella discuss attachment and violence towards women. Ella thinks of her family when she hears attachment, while Rhea thinks of romantic relationships. They talk about their own attachment experiences, with Ella reflecting on her past relationship and Rhea discussing her attachment to her parents. They also discuss attachment to teachers, with Ella being attached to both favorite and disliked teachers, and Rhea being more attached to female teachers. They both agree that parents and family play a role in attachment. Hi, this is Rhea, and this is Ella, and we're going to talk about Attachment and violence towards women. So Ella, who's the first person you think of when I say attachment? well, I would say my family because I've always been pretty close to them and there's always like they're always gonna be there for me. Mm-hmm. How about you? Wow, I was gonna say something completely different No, I was gonna Well, when I say like attachment, I don't think of like family like I think like relationships like romantic relationship I was thinking about my last situation ship and how he was like, like he was not a good person but the more I think about it, I Think I was really Attached to him and like the thought of him I mean, well not even the thought of him just like how he presented himself because it was kind of similar to my father Which was also interesting, but I was also attached to like his behaviors like the inconsistency I feel like people get attached to that because it's exciting, but it's also depressing Yeah, that is so true. Do you would you say that he was like this sick not physically but like mentally like Abusing with me. I don't think he thought that much about his behaviors and he just It wasn't in his head like how it would affect me So I think his actions were just what he has learned in his own childhood and from his own attachment Styles, okay. Yes, and you can think you like reflected like yeah, okay. Yeah, exactly. I Mean and I feel like family does have a lot To contribute to attachments. Yeah, I guess that's kind of like where you get your like background from you know Your archetype Okay, well you said your family so what kind of attachment do you think you have towards them? Okay, compare your father and your mother Okay, is it different the way you're attached to them? I'll say I'm more attached to my mom But that's just because she's always been like so you like stick and do She's always been like there for me and it's always been like if I have an issue She's always like so it's been there and I feel like the more I talk to her the more attached I get her You know what? I mean? Yeah, it's like a secure attachment Exactly. Yeah, so I'll see when I think of attachment I think of more like my family and like safety Yeah, I mean that sounds positive Well, yeah, I'm here at cash when I feel something positive Interesting I think of something negative Yeah, I mean I mean I guess that's because like the different experiences yeah relationships and everything and honestly, like I just I think about everyone else other than my family like my Yeah, like in class today earlier We were talking about Like who our favorite teachers were and I had trouble answering that question because I was so attached to like every Single teacher I would come across like even the ones I hated. I was attached to like Them in a really weird way. Like I would always want their validation even though I hate them You would you would always like have want the validation. Do you think that's because there's like an underlying issue? I mean, maybe and I think this is my sign Sorry the point of that story was like ever since kindergarten Like I always get attached to like female like ordered teachers and it's still like that like it's translated Do you know do you know why or do you know? So you get more attached to like female Teachers than like male teachers. Yeah for sure. Do you have the same experience? Not really to be honest. I like No, no, I don't know anything about it. No, so your favorite teachers have been male. Yes home Patricia all of my favorite teachers been male, yeah That's really interesting Do you think our parents and family members play a role in this? I do because it's like they form are like Background in the former childhood and they like I guess if you have like trauma when you're a kid Mm-hmm, I guess that forms who you are as well. Mm-hmm And I'd say like I didn't really have like trauma growing up. So I don't really Like I think I can be a special like female teachers and like not just teachers but like You know figures. Yeah, I guess and male figures