ARE YOU BETTER NOW ?

The speaker, Pamela Denise, is back for another episode of her podcast. She discusses the topic of black women's relationships with black men and the ups and downs of love. She emphasizes the importance of personal growth and improvement within relationships. Pamela encourages her audience to evaluate their current relationships and determine if they are better off in them or if changes need to be made. She mentions upcoming episodes that will focus on celebrity breakups and the importance of forgiveness in relationships. Pamela concludes by expressing her excitement for future episodes and the opportunity for live discussions on Instagram. Hey y'all, it's your girl Pamela Denise and we are back baby for another fun Friday, okay? We are back baby and we are, as usual, we are in full effect. How y'all doing out there? Your girl, Pamela Denise and welcome to Black Women's Butts and Our Relationship with Black Men. Well, we talk about love, honey. We talk about the mood. We talk about the right and the wrongs and two wrongs don't make a right. Y'all know how I do. I'll come on here and just talk about any damn thing. Well, we are back on another Friday for Food for Thought Friday. So stay tuned, stay tuned for a different week next week. We're going to put some relationship Hollywood breakups, which I don't get excited. I don't get excited about the breakups. I don't like breakups. I never liked, I never liked breakups when I was, you know, in my teenage years. I didn't like breakups, but it's a part of life. You know what I mean? You got to break up and some break up to make up and break up to make up, but hell, you got to break up. You break up, you get better, you learn, you just begin to learn that people are in your lives for the moment, for the season and for a reason. It is what it is. You meet people today and you don't know them, you know, tomorrow. I mean, whatever the case may be, you get it. You get what I'm saying. You know what I'm saying. Breakups are hard to do, however, they are part of life. Breakups look at it like this. Breakups can make you better, you know, and depend, depend on how deep you are with it or into it or in relationship. You can go through some shit. You can go through some stuff emotionally. You're learning from it. Like I said, it can make you a better person. Do y'all agree? We are going to have, we're going to be able to call in. We're going to be going live in a couple weeks, so that's going to be exciting. First, I want to touch on, let's see, we're going to start, it's going to be, next week is going to be like a new week where you're going to, we're going to be talking about some, you know, we're not going to miss out on the tea and the gossip. I don't want to do that. I decided I don't want to do that. I think we should, it's only, it's only fair that we get to, we get to hear all the tea. But last week I touched on, I think it was Tuesday, we touched on the book, Jada's book, Unheard is Speaking Her Truth, which was great. But we're done with that. We're over that. We're moving on and we're moving on and we're getting better. We're getting better in our relationships. Are you getting better in your relationship? And I'm not talking about, if you're in a relationship right now, it's either you're getting better or you're not. And at some point you have to decide, am I getting better or am I getting worse? Think about that for a moment. You know, because we're all adults and, you know, are you getting better or are you getting worse as a person, as a human being? Because your relationship should be making you better. Think about that for a moment and just let that marinate there. Your relationship, you should be getting better. You should be getting better at everything you do. That means financially, that means spiritually, that means your health, that means mental. You should be getting better at everything you do in this relationship that you're in right now. Right now. I'm not talking about you broke up last year. I mean, however, you could be in a healing moment, which is good. We all should have those, we all should have a chance to have those healing moments. But I'm talking about the ones that are in a relationship right now, today. And right at this moment, you should be better with anything that you are doing in your life today versus ten years ago, five years ago. And it should be, it should be your relationship is making you better. Y'all follow me? Y'all follow me on that one? Because we've touched on mental health and we've touched on a lot, which obviously those things are very important. The mental health, your well-being, those are number one in taking care of yourself. But your relationship, I'm going to say it again, food for thought Friday. Right now, the relationship that you're in right now, you should be better than anything that you are doing in life. And if you're not better, you should be on track for being better because you're staying in that relationship. And that goes for, okay, you just broke up last year, we'll say six months ago. And now, six months ago, now you're in a new relationship. To me, that's a little fast, but to each his own, whatever works. But not only are you better from that relationship that you just broke up, this new relationship right now, this moment, you should be better. It should be making you better. Because if it's not, then it's time to evaluate. Give yourself six months, I say do a three-month, six-month, 12-month evaluation. Six months, what'd I say? What'd I say? Three-month, six-month, 12-month evaluation on your new relationship. Is that fair? Is that fair? I think that's fair. Because you should be getting better. So you're not wasting your time with someone that you plan on being with. I mean, I hope you plan on being with that person. But you're not wasting time with someone that you're actually going backwards. I mean, you broke up with someone, or whatever the case may be, or broke off the engagement, or just broke off from being together. But it was a reason for that in this new relationship. It's new. Obviously, all the new stuff. New is new. Ooh, I like new. Three months, it's new. Six months, it's fairly new. 12 months. You need to be evaluating to make sure that you're better off where you are. Because now you're learning not to waste your time. Don't waste your time, guys. Every relationship that you enter, it's either you have takeaways or it's going to make you better. This is Food for Thought Friday. We like to keep it short and sweet on Fridays because I know y'all got stuff to do. I know it's payday. I know the mood is right. I know some of y'all are going to be up all night long doing the do. But let's just make sure that we're doing inventory because you'll find yourself wasting time. And I think the next Tuesday we'll talk about are you learning to forgive? Learning to forgive. Learning to forgive. I'm not saying move on. I'm saying learning to forgive and forget and staying with that partner. That's next Tuesday, guys. Tuesday's going to be a little different because we're going to bring a little bit of the gossip in. I know everybody don't want to hear the gossip, but, honey, I love me some good tea every now and again. Because you know what? No one's perfect. Hollywood's not perfect. We got a lot of breakups before Christmas, a lot of Hollywood breakups. One of them that surprised me is we'll talk about it. We'll talk about it next week because I don't want to hold you guys. I know you know that I can keep food for thought Fridays real, real quick because it's just a moment for you to just take a moment and think about are you better in the relationship that you are in right now, today, at this moment? And if not, you got some work to do so you're not wasting your time 12 months from now, two years from now, and you didn't even stop to evaluate where you were in your relationship. Listen, I'm no, what do you call it? Well, I wouldn't consider myself to be a relationship expert because I've been in relationships and I know a lot about relationships. Not only do that, I listen to a lot of couples. I listen to a lot of women. I listen to men. I hear women's opinion. And I absorb that. And it's the reason why I'm on this podcast is because of my experience and what I have absorbed and listened to some of my, you know, colleagues, friends, family members. You have it. You know, we're all human at the end of the day. And if you pay attention and you start realizing that relationships are just a human, what do you call it, aspect of life, you know, because you're breaking up, you're making up, you're breaking up, you're moving on. It's just part of life. But the question is today for Food for Thought Fridays, are you better? Are you better in your relationship today than you were back then? Obviously, you know, if you're in a new relationship, you know, hopefully it's better and it's not repeat of the one from last year because if you're doing a lot of repeats, and I'll touch on that, ladies, if you're doing a lot of repeats, you're getting the same thing that you broke up with last year or six months ago, then some of that may be on you. We'll talk about that as well. Those are patterns. And I think I want to say that we would bring a therapist on. Those are patterns. But I don't want to get too deep because we don't get deep on Food for Thought Fridays because we got things to do. We got loving to get to. We got money to spend. We are busy. We are so busy. Thank y'all for coming on and just think about that for a moment. Are you better in your relationship today at your current relationship that you're in today? Are you better? And that is you take an inventory, three months, six months, 12 months, on where you are right now. That way, well, you know, you're not wasting too much time. Because believe you me, if you're not better, I will find a way to figure out what's going on and why you are not better with the person that you're with today. Well, with that being said, I thank you guys for listening. And we'll be going live. We're going to have the tea coming out next week. It's going to be kind of moving around a little different next week. And, again, I'll give you guys a two-week notice. We're going to be popping in on Instagram Live, Black Women's Buzz, and Dating Our Black Men. We may even go so far as to, well, I won't put too much on you. But right now we are so excited of the things that are coming. You guys have a great, great weekend. And, again, your girl, Pamela Denise. I love you guys. Let's talk about it, baby. You can love who you love. So let's talk about it, baby. Bye, y'all. Until next time, I am your girl, your host, Pamela Denise. Bye.