HOTM S1E1

The speaker discusses various topics during an interview, including beliefs about true love, the meaning of life, finding purpose, the impressions they give when meeting someone, and their thoughts on heaven and hell. They also discuss irritations about the opposite sex, such as lack of accountability and unrealistic expectations. The speaker reflects on the importance of being mindful of what they put out in the world and the impact it can have. They also mention the movie "Countdown" and the concept of knowing when and how one will die. So let's just do a test run and it looks like this. So you so you can see how it looks. So let's go. What do you want to talk about? How are you? How am I? How's life? Things are great. I do feel like they could be a thousand times better of course. But let's go to, hold on. I think we're gonna do an interview. You gonna let me interview you? Okay, hold on. Let's do it. Oh, this is great. Okay, so first question bombs. Do you believe in true love? Sometimes. You can give me your deep thoughts. It depends on your experience with your soul. I've been in love. I find it hard to believe I can be in love again. But I got a special person in my life now that might be breaking that barrier. That is awesome. I'm excited about that. Okay, so you ready for the next one? You want me to answer them too? Okay. I believe in true love. I don't think that you can find true love with just everybody that you fall in love with though. Like certain people will show you what it is to be loved just completely unconditionally with nothing attached to you. Rather it be God. Like anything that is attached to you, you can be stripped of it and the person will still love you the same. Absolutely. Okay, so you ready for the next question? And then you can answer and then I'll go back and answer. So does your life have a future? Absolutely. It's important to watch what the kids are taking in for sure, for sure. You said that you have worked for yourself and you have worked for other people, but like the part of the kid part is like the main part. So what's giving your life the meaning the most? Is it the kids? Right now, it's a short-term thing. So on the therapy, I realized I don't put enough attention on my kids. That's a good point. What do you want to, what do you want to do different though? I'm not saying traveling isn't 100% getting out of my comfort zone. I think there's some kids who are like crazy. 30-something is crazy. So I think piano lessons just really support you. You know, social media is toxic, it's a poison. So I think y'all got to explore what's by your hands. We spend our time working and we're not going to be just doing that. That's a good point, for sure. So as far as um my life having meaning, my life has meaning because I feel like I'm here for a purpose. I am waiting on my purpose to be kind of put in front of me so that I can know what avenues to take next and like what is good for me, what's not good for me, knowing that I'm watching what I'm taking in, watching what I'm putting out, making sure that I know that I always have like the best intentions no matter what's going on. So because that backfires, we talked about that earlier where you said um and I wanted to talk about that too because you was like um no matter what you do like over time your karma is going to come back to you or it's going to come back to your kids. Like that is crazy to think about. Um but it's just important to watch what we're doing and what we're saying. Social media for sure. You know I can't, I can't with socials. Let's see, let's see, let's get to the next one. Let's see. What would you want your final words to be? Damn. Of course. Yeah so you know I want the crisis nursery. That's happening. Um I don't a thousand percent know like what my purpose is. So I have been just on my own time, just when nobody's listening, when nobody's watching, I have been trying to figure out what is my purpose. I know what I want to do but that does not mean that that's what I'm here to do. That's just me and what I see. Like it's a higher power that has put me here for a reason, that has been keeping me here for a reason. So I feel like I don't, in order for me to know my purpose and to live in my purpose and to serve my purpose, I need to take time away from everything and just let it be me by myself in a room and just at least for a day. I'll take a week and just kind of figure out no, I'm dead serious. Like just figure it out because just because I feel like I want to do this or that doesn't mean like that's what I was supposed to be here to do. So I do think like when people, like people always have an agenda. Some people know what they born to do, some people, you know, been doing it their whole life. But me, I feel like I'm good. I ain't gonna say I'm good at everything but I feel like I like doing everything. I like learning everything. Like I want to dive into almost everything just to see what I like the most, what gives me the most, um, like what gives me the most, what's the word I've been drinking, Lord? Oh, what gives me the most like fulfillment basically? Okay, I do. So yeah, for sure, for sure. Let's see here. Okay. What impressions do you think you give when you meet someone? That's, that's a good question. Oh my gosh, I love that. That's insane. So wait, say it one more time. Sure. I pray for peace, peace of mind, stability, stability of my home, comfort, make sure my home is comfortable, my life is comfortable, and knowledge, wisdom, and understanding by my stepfather gave me those three. Knowledge, wisdom, and understanding is top tier. It's, it's, it's key. Yeah, for sure. Let's see. Um, what impressions do I think that I give when I first meet somebody? So I don't know exactly, but I can tell you what, like, people kind of tell me, like, how I come off. So of course, you might, you might be able to tell me how I come off. I think it's probably, I think it's the same. I recall the conversation where we don't exchange goals, but if it's just a daily goal, we have our active, big goals to change. You know, if it's, if it's located, you know, if you're making businesses, we talk about start, we know places that kind of ask you, what you think about this? Yeah, I like that. I agree with it. Oh my gosh, thank you. I'm gonna cry. No, for real. I agree with that, though, because it's important. Like we just said, it's important what you take in. It's important what you put out. It's just. Thank you. I'm excited. Why would I be this excited? Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Let's see. If you had the chance to know when and how you would die, would you take it? Oh, this is kind of, let me, let me, before you answered it, this is kind of like that movie that we just watched. What was it called? You know what I'm talking about? Oh, Countdown on Netflix. Lord, that was kind of good. It was kind of creepy. And what's sickening is that that's actually an app. I thought you was watching it. Please. Okay. Countdown. That was a good movie on Netflix. Okay. So if you had the chance to know when and how you would die, would you take it? Oh, my gosh. Yeah. That's a tough one. Um, I probably wouldn't. So I probably wouldn't only because not only do we know when our last day is, like nobody wakes up. It's like, like nobody wakes up every time that I see like RIP floating around on social media and stuff like that. Like I always say like, my first words is like, I know this person did not wake up today thinking today was a last day. So I think like, I don't think that I would even want to know. I might want to know just if it's going to be like harsh, because I don't want it to be harsh. I feel like I don't want to. I don't, I don't think I would want to know. Just let me just do good until it's that time, I guess. So I post that revenge story. This one's called things that are not found. That's where I was born. And it's cold. I heard him argue with his wife on the phone. Slamming the phone at work, getting back to work, messing up some stuff. Guys, what's wrong? I'm not going to go into it. I'm not worried about it. We have to block you out. His coworker said, you know, who told you that? Like, what are you talking about? He said, don't tell you. You were going to make help. I promise you that. As in claim that, claim those stuff from now. You know, I'm seeing some things that you might not ever be able to take back. If that was the last time you spoke with that person, whether it might be a family member, your wife, your kids. Don't let the last time you speak to them, about when you say something you don't mean to them. A little bit. That's probably something that I needed to hear. That makes sense for sure. Okay. So, so pretty much watching what you put out. I like that. Okay. So do you believe in heaven and hell? Yes. I believe in heaven and hell. I don't know if we want to scratch that surface for real, for real. People be hella sensitive about that, but. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. The next question is such a good question. We got to get into it. So remind you, I'm going to say it twice and say five things that irritate you about the opposite or the same sex. So let's first, let's do five things that irritate you about the opposite sex. Me first? Yeah, you first. I don't know why. This is just from my experience. I can't speak for everybody. You know, we talk about how people have different experiences with the opposite sex, but the big thing in my life has been the counterfeiting. Things like, even though, even though we're in my family, obviously I'm just a relationship with us, but you know, I hear about other people's problems but I've never heard anybody say, you know, I don't ever hear anybody start with, I know I've done this, or I know I've done that, or I could do this better. Nobody thinks with their own lessons, you know, and I think I pride myself on that because I try, I try to leave it there. Even if you, even if you don't mean it, I think, I think the policy is worth, it's worth a thousand words, you know, because if I don't mean it, I still want you to know, I don't want to fight with you, Zaini. Most of my life, you know, I feel like the opposite sex, there are very few women that will be with accountability. Accountability is a word that I just, oh, okay. Second thing, which is a big social media issue, is about unrealistic expectations. Mm-hmm, let's touch on that. I got to ask you something, I got to ask you. I think $650, $160,000 next year, but I don't look like what a $650,000 man would make. I don't dress like one, I don't drive like one. I will be next year, but you tell me. People have expectations of what it is, and it's not that deep. Somebody got $160,000, I probably took home $80,000, $90,000. I ain't did it, you know, but I think people's taking out the process of life, you know, working through a year, it's even better. Everybody want to go straight to the finish line. There's no substance to the world we're in, so meeting a woman's unrealistic expectations will kill a man. I've tried it, I've done it. Let's elaborate on that real quick. Oh, sure. What they be wanting? Sure, I got a sales account, and I think I don't want a piece of jewelry on for me. The insurance is too much, it was counting for three or four of the pieces, you know what I'm saying? And it's just, you know, I mean, I could do it, you know, I made $660,000, there was nothing for me to do, but I think every woman thinks every man should do that, and it is still not an easy task to spend thousands on your tour, or even, say, at home. A man's supposed to have, or get me a house and cars and this and that, and it's not that easy. It's just definitely not, and not to cut you off, so with that first answer, right, so the first thing that you're saying that you hate about the opposite sex is that it's an unrealistic expectation, expectations? So that lack of accountability, I think, is the most common thing I experience that makes me uncomfortable, like, if you can't be honest about yourself, you're not going to be honest. Absolutely, so that's kind of scary, so what have you come across that you mean, like, lack of accountability? So I, the accountability word for me is always, like, I don't know a thousand percent if I take accountability for stuff, so when you say lack of accountability, like, are you saying that women want, want, we kind of talked about this a little bit, though, like, basically, women want men to come at a hundred percent, or right at the front door? Sure. Okay. They want to come at it, but they want to, but, you know, they can agree to themselves about how they progress in life, or how they, you know, change to think that they may need necessary, I mean, that they may need necessary but, you know, he got to be honest, he got to be ready, he got to be looking, he got to be 20 years and have been in the hood before, he's never been married, no. Very true, very much so, be real, like, come on now, but like, I don't know. Like, don't be extreme. And be intentional when you wake up in the morning, because you also got the man that, I think we talked about this before, you know, I work with guys that get to a certain point, and they just stop for a while, but I've been blessed for every door in my company to open for me, and I've been very, very proud, because I do what they want, but I walk before I stop, before I stop. Yeah. I'm black, I'm educated, I've come on people's, you know, there's a we've been going out there. Black and educated is top tier, let's just, let's just go there, but yeah. Black accountability is what I like the best. I realize the expectations is number four, uh, number three, I don't know if there's a word to describe this, obviously, a wife, and it's the same thing with me, so this is a common problem with both, but my experience with different women is complacency, you know. What is that? I don't know what that means. When you get complacent, you can't stop doing the things, you can't stop the maintenance of your relationship, basically. Hold on, wait, I'm sorry, I don't, I just want to look that up first. Complacent, so let me see, so being proud of yourself or self-approval, so smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or one's achievements, meaning you can't afford to be, well, this is using it in a sentence, you can't afford to be complacent about security. In other words, or for other words for that is pleased, satisfied, or content, okay, go ahead, sorry, sorry. Okay, so saying it like that, complacent, super, right, it's like, I got to do that, I got to take care of myself, I don't want to complacent. Okay, but we've been together for a while now, and I tell you this, let's go, but it's something I don't like, at least that you do, because you're not, no, you don't want to put it, okay, but for instance, I'll say, hey, Sean, it's all right the way you're talking, such and such, and I learned with a lot of respect, and it came to the point where you feel like ain't been nothing wrong with it all this time, but there's something wrong with it, I'm not changing, okay, you stop being upset about it. That's kind of touching on accountability too. And it's a sense of, I don't know, just ideas, people don't change themselves, when we talk about people grow together, like it's a part of our growth, I might be dealing with, I may have differences from you that I want us to grow out of, you know, man, when you're so comfortable with who you are, and so confident in yourself, because you locked all this in, because you got your degree, because you did this, and now you don't believe you have to, there's no growth left for you to capture now. You know, I think I experienced a lot of the opposite sex that gets to that point, and you hear it in conversations on socials, where, you know, they're going through the masculine woman and feminine man stuff now, which I hate the conversation, because it's, well, a woman with degrees and all this and all that don't still get a man, because she doesn't really care, it's like a man's got to be a paladin, you know, but when you're with a man and say, no, she's not a man, don't want her, I'll get somebody from McDonald's, and you don't want to make friends every day, pal, it's just, you know, yeah, I think even them people are in a place where they feel like, I'm so good, I can make somebody feel, there's always room for improvement, don't get complacent, don't leave, just go think, when someone close to you comes and says you're right, you need to change something. Yeah. All right, so taking accountability for sure, for sure. Yeah, was that three? Was that three? Let me see, let me go back. Okay, so I have, was that, yeah, what was the, okay, what was the third one though? So I got lack of accountability, unrealistic, unexpected, unrealistic, why can't I say that? Unrealistic expectations, what was the third one? Complacency. Oh, I don't know how to spell that, Lord Jesus. Hold on, complacency. 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C-O-L-C-O-M-P-L-A-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E- C-O-L-C-O-M-P-L-A-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E-N-C-E- I am going to say actually the question says five things that irritate you about the opposite slash the same sex and I did get these questions off of Pinterest just for credit purposes but um five things that irritate me about the opposite sex for me okay pal let's go to number one men that disrespect women oh we had about an hour long conversation about these men that disrespect women because that is questionable within itself who something that irritate me let's see what's the second thing that irritate me man that disrespects women and I was raised by women you look fucking loose the man's on a woman trying to control the woman you know you ought to have more confidence in yourself just as a man to not have to do those things you ought to be more poised than that now let's flip side of that coin a woman's greatest weapon and her greatest weakness is her mouth God have a way of ruining a person with your words okay so again it applies to the accountability you know somebody might take this man of disrespect but you don't know what he dealt with right before he got disrespected okay let's hear about this cuz um that's crazy because certain situations no one's gonna take the time to listen to what happened to you before you disrespected somebody they just don't they are just gonna go off of you disrespecting their person their people but but go ahead people know no people know you can tell your people know you've got a mouth you know this is great that they don't support you but it's what we actually put somebody in a position of having to check you sit in line between disrespecting somebody and checking you know I'm in a situation where you say you don't mind if I just stop fucking talking stay in your motherfucking place and get the fuck away from me I think you know there's different things that make a disrespect like I think maybe it's been my left foot cuffs my cuffs like to say I say I've expressed myself what I can see I'm expressing myself can be disrespectful inside out you know I mean the disrespect limit there is no form of acceptance for it but I'm not gonna tell my brother to not defend himself you know not physically but whether it be verbally anything else don't nobody defend those ain't nobody coming to your rest and nobody gonna say nothing for you so definitely the kind of man that can defend himself and in terms of communication but if you have to cross that line to defend yourself physically in those situations absolutely the kind of man that can shoot with physical activity that's a special place for you because now it's in order three or four times five was a month so the moment you step across that line there's no coming back from that you you you're born and raised with the knowledge that you're stronger you're faster you're more capable physically you know and then I feel like that's just a that's just a it's a pioneering thing you don't use your physical power to get your message across because you can't communicate true communication is insane yeah I agree so keep our hands to ourselves pretty much okay so let's see so we just touched on the disrespect with the with the women that was that was two three the third thing that irritates me about the opposite sex let's normalize courting women again Lord Jesus what do you want to see is for them so 2024 with courting women personally so it just depends on that woman because like we just say women be wanting you to already come with you know what I'm saying I already want you to come with so much so for normal men that don't come with so much and I'm gonna just keep it simple courting women is just normal nice now don't text me good morning beautiful for three all of it but 365 days in a year it ain't nothing and you ain't standing on business behind that period so I just feel like um just me and pretty much now this okay so me and pretty much I'm kind of like taking the lead again so initiating being the man being the leader because men are supposed to lead it seemed like in today's world me I want you to leave the fuck so me me I want you to taste them I am so blown by the I'm dead serious like me and most definitely want you to chase them these days and I'm did I miss something like I've been on social media for a second so I feel like what did I miss when it comes to their like me I want you to chase in these days they want you to come with everything these days they want you to be a leader these days they want you to give them hints and clues and shit but they supposed to be the like the leader so that irritates me me who want you to chase them blows it I would never teach my boys to I just want to always teach my boys like you're supposed to be the leader so long story short me or supposed to be the leader the protector and the provider so I would never teach my son to just make sure a woman is chasing them because don't get me wrong like it's supposed to be even if it's supposed to be even in the sense that y'all show each other the same attention so if you if a man is chasing you and you are not wanting to be chased by that man being kind of let him know that I guess but if he's chasing you and you want to talk to him too then you can kind of like you know soften up and be yeah but if you go listen to full podcast he was on here by his knees to me I don't say it's where you tell me they don't yes I mean how much you wait to wait I thought five said he says oh so you a motherfucking hobby mm-hmm thank the one I don't want you how much you make about 50 60 thousand so you work at the cable company you got the sniffers in one of our women because that's what caught people's attention but when I'll get everybody trying to get everybody that shit game so you can he kill me to do that take your fat ass to the gym he said update your resume nigga cuz you know I don't know which thought she was gonna do it with 50 60 thousand he said stick your fucking game up he said and quit thinking like somebody's supposed to fucking hate it yeah there's a problem with about a single mother shit because you niggas was raised by bitches and now you would bitch at all don't make me laugh at stuff like that because it's the truth it is that's fake man man man I worked with this girl I will never forget she said these men are raised by single bitter bitches and now they are single bitter bitches shout out to her I'm gonna call her because yeah that's crazy that's that's that's that's real shit you can tell the difference in a man that had his father what man it's like a man that his father is calm he communicates better and he tends to make shit happen a little bit yeah I mean it didn't he really knew he's emotional you don't know how to react to his emotions and he goes like what he can't do his emotions he's gonna shut down he's gonna scream relax let's promote emotional maturity that's insane to be out of control with your emotions and be just flying after the deep end so I don't know how many there was for me I think that was a third okay the fourth um I don't know the fourth I don't have a lot that irritates me about the opposite sex because I don't deal with a lot of that I don't deal with a lot of the opposite sex only because I have been in a place where I am putting a lot of like I'm trying to fix myself so it's like I can't I can't come in and accept a lot of stuff that men are doing and saying because I can't offer nothing to nobody if I'm just 75% of who I'm supposed to be like I need the whole 100 at this point and let me think what would be the fourth period I can't take care of people if I haven't taken care of myself for sure so the fourth thing that I'm gonna say that irritates me about the opposite sex is let's go back to what you see it like the lack of accountability which we kind of already went over it with them the emotions and the the disrespect so I don't know let me let me think yes lack of accountability definitely got to be one of my suit okay let's go I don't buy one of the basic shit but for me it's time to get in the know this is time before I spend while I was together watching this and I need to know are you the kind of motherfucker that's going to talk the whole movie you're going to sit and keep on going and enjoy it? Oh my gosh I'll talk the whole movie What's about to happen? I'll find something over here I don't know Yeah for real What do you mean? Man no again are you the type of person how do you they say you can tell a lot about a person how they treat their waitress? Are you tip wheel? Are you pinky? Are you one of those type of person that go office? I worked in a fast food I never heard that I love that you said that I know that you don't fuck with the people that make your food I ain't got nothing Can't somebody knock it on her or somebody clean it up or don't play with it Yeah I do too You too As soon as you know if you're cheap or not nice you got bad service you got bad service What if your waiter was cool? What if he smiled at you? I'll tip him more than $10 bro I'll tip him more than $15-$20 sometimes Yeah Yeah that's crazy Absolutely let's not be rude let's not be disrespectful I mean people are people Yeah I agree I'm not a guy that likes flowers $50-$60 you know what I'm saying I would rather you This is just me I'm not judging nobody I'm just saying So that $50-$60 could have went to you know we could have did something else Versus the flowers sitting there for a week and you wasted it but I do love it I'm not judgmental I'm not like I don't like flowers but I'm just saying for pocket purposes I appreciate what you're saying but for me flowers it's just the From strolling to water brands of water more than saying something that would happen to me You know I don't expect you to take care of them I expect you to keep them when they flower You know what I'm saying Yeah that's a good point It's the beauty of them they stay beautiful for a short amount of time Aww that's so sweet like I didn't think about it that way for sure but You know I'm overthinking I put too much thought in here for the time Flowers are cool though flowers are cool However I'm dead How does a man of Okay so a man that's not me that don't make six figures that don't have his own How does he court a woman? That's a good question so actually How does a man that does not make a lot of money how does he court a woman? That's your question right? Umm How does he do it in a way that can meet her goals and needs and forceful wishes? So I'm going to put it like this Most I'm going to say most I know some people got this umm Everybody thinks that they are umm A Kardashian at this point and everybody you know what I'm saying And don't nobody got that type of money So You just gotta look at like that woman for real for real And this ain't even really just women this is just for people in general People kinda got these unrealistic expectations like you said before So for a person that doesn't have a lot of money doesn't make a lot of money Doesn't have a lot to offer pretty much You can just be genuine be consistent be intentional you did say that too Be intentional with what you're doing like you don't need money to meet basic needs You need to Me I'm a cuddly person Cuddling is hella free Just Cuddling is hella free We can watch this movie you already paid Netflix $15 to $20 to $30 however much it costs I don't know You already paid them X amount of dollars We can watch a movie go get us the popcorn The popcorn is $6-$7 you know what I'm saying it's just about It's the thought that counts for real for real Now if you're not appreciative of the thought of what somebody's doing then that's something you need to look into because You know what I'm saying if you got who's to say if this year you up against X amount of dollars You're not making nothing for real Next year God might got you in a position to give you 8 figures You can't go off of What a person got when you meet them because you don't know what they story will be You don't know who you know what I'm saying people come up every day And you cannot just be expecting them to come to you 100% A person might come to you 80% and they 20% is in the future That might be with you that might be with somebody else and then you got people that turn around and then They dating you this year you ain't have it this year but next year you got it you didn't came up That ain't mad cause you with somebody else Never it was like 56 minutes that's what I got Okay okay I got you But yeah people be coming up all the time like you can't just go off of So when I met the person that I had my kids with he didn't have no lot of money he didn't have this and that like But over time over 10 years like people definitely came up I watched the come up you know what I'm saying And it just was Riches are bad when scary bad girls Yeah I mean every person it don't even be men just specifically but just women too like If we meet today like I'm in this position today you don't know what position I'm gonna be in a year from today So just treat people like you got some sense cause It rags to riches stories being real that's what I think all women got it dealt with We should take time One thing it will take you about it so Yeah straight up but hey People got a lot to consider for real for real let's see let me see what question we on I don't know what number we was on but let's see We was on I think that was pretty much I can't think of nothing else cause everybody be getting on my nerves all the sexes at this point Not at this exact second but let's see Not at this exact second but let's see The next one Let's see the next question is The story of your first kiss If yours is long I can do mine cause it's so short that it's insane First time that I told First great girlfriend I think you don't always feel true if you want to go through this I guess I thought God knows she quit quite fast It was in order for me to get a kiss from my girlfriend to kiss her friend I ain't been clear all my life I'm dead That was My first or the third kiss I don't know about the right kiss I'm sure there's worse to this Cause my first kiss was with two different people Huh how that's impossible It wasn't a repeat getting a kiss from her without kissing her friends These was some little first graders they was some little fives That's great Let me back it up real quick I shouldn't stage this too much Cause it's too much people can narrow me down But anyway I was a teenager I'm weak I was being appropriate you guys I wasn't doing anything that I wasn't supposed to do before I was supposed to do it Some little first graders being fast it's crazy I wonder where they at right now They probably was just working on TikTok two hours ago I'm dead But That's almost literally Okay So it's a lot of questions But that was the 8th question we can stop at 10 So what's something that you regret? That's the 9th question Like when I asked you that question You had to think of one specific thing that came to your mind first What was that thing? Something that I regret Is Not Taking more chances And I plead I don't care it's real estate You know And as I'm going into my 30s And now when I jump out of here and experience life and take chances I wish I would've took more chances in my late teens early 20s And now I'm trying to take now Oh my gosh that's a good one Look at me just been doing crap That's a good one Something that I regret I don't I definitely live with A regret nothing type of mentality Because everything that I did And everything that I've said Everything that I've Has led me up to this point So I like to think that at this point I am a very level-headed person So You're not supposed to regret nothing Everything that you went through Everything that you have right now In this conversation Has happened for a reason So I don't feel like I regret anything For real for real If I had to come up with something I would say Just not speaking up For Just not speaking up in certain situations That I wanted to And that can be good or bad for me Because Sometimes I say stuff that I probably shouldn't say And then there has been times Where I should have said what was on my mind And I didn't So when I get home I'm upset because I be ready to call the person And still say what I gotta say But Something I regret Probably just Not speaking up at the right time Which I want to do that From right now forward I like that So let's see What Just the last question too What do you find funny That other people don't? Okay Let's try You know So Me and my sister would say We just blame anybody that's silly We would say I don't fuck nobody We just find silly stuff all the time I think that's A beautiful thing to have for a person You know I have to I just find it funny all the time That's a good one That's a good one I don't know What do I find funny That other people don't? I find Every single last thing I find Everything funny as fuck Like I be having to Sometimes Having to Abuse myself Just because I need to Get it out And not Piss nobody off So I have been put out of my classroom Before because I'm cracking the fuck up And don't nothing be funny And the teacher was like It's ridiculous Just go ahead in the hall Until you're done I don't know Something that I find funny That other people don't I've been silly And like goofy And Just Unserious My whole entire life So Everything shit I find everything funny That Other people don't I need to I'm Becoming so mature Now That I've Been able to Be like Okay don't laugh in this moment Just make a straight face Or I'll think about I'll have to think about something sad In order to keep the smile off my face And keep the laugh in Very much so Or When I was going to therapy Like She told me I was laughing At times that I feel uncomfortable So I think I'm laughing when it's funny And I'm also laughing when it's not funny Yeah pretty much So yeah That's just that on that I'm gonna work on that though I'm gonna work on that at some point Right now Working on it We had you for a feature Where they had West West Forest Park Saw that now Thank you