Ego & Relationships

The main idea of this information is that authenticity is key in human relationships. The speaker reflects on their past relationships and realizes that their own ego often interfered with their ability to connect with others. They acknowledge that feeling unworthy or superior can hinder relationships and lead to a lack of confidence. The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing that everyone is battling with their own ego and that behavior does not always reflect their true authentic self. They suggest that seeing past others' ego and showing compassion can improve relationships. The speaker also encourages embracing one's authenticity and not trying to please others. They acknowledge that interactions with others can vary, but it is important to observe and understand the role of ego in those interactions. Overall, the speaker believes that being authentic and understanding others can lead to healthier relationships. I wanted to talk about just the very light and simple topic of human relationships and in the context of the ego and their authentic self. When I look at all the relationships I've had, friendships, relationships with work colleagues, family, loving relationships and even the interactions you have with all the people you meet on a day-to-day basis whether at the hairdresser. The key to relationships I believe is authenticity. When I look at myself I've always and I look at relationships that didn't work just you know I look at working relationships where I just never feel comfortable with somebody and a lot of it comes down to ego on my side. So before we look at anybody else I sort of think what stops me from having a good relation? Quite often it's myself telling, my ego telling me I'm not worthy. I might be sitting around with some really good businessman or it might be a couple of guys who are a bit different to me or beer drinking Aussies and I just feel out of place. I feel I'm not I'm not worthy to be here. I don't have anything to add and that's the ego. These are these learned behaviors about you're not worthy. You don't have a you know you don't have a place you fear of being left out of being excluded so you carry that around and and that's certainly you know what I what I've had and when you're feeling that when your ego is telling you in any kind of way at some level you're not worthy or it becomes a vicious circle because then you actually do lose confidence and and you know in that state you don't really have a lot to contribute and that's the problem that becomes a self-fulfilling cycle. The other thing is the other time the ego interferes with relationships or where it is where it goes the other way and it tells you you're better you're too good for this person you're above this person and it's that evil kind of arrogance and you're not seeing them for who they are and what they can contribute not recognizing them as a fully you know a brother a god-like authentic human being and and so the ego can kind of take you to either of these places in working relationships or loving relationships and both of them are very very unhealthy when you look at the healthiest relationships it's the authentic ones it's the family because you've got that unconditional love and that blood tie there's just that authentic it's friends and you know each other so well and you're not out to be better or worse or compete you just enjoy each other's company and share life but I think ideally we would come to any relationship with an attitude of look here's who I am I'm authentic and I want to see you I want to I want to I want to understand you as an authentic person I guess that brings us to the other point and this particularly in a work environment but in any environment really we have to recognize that everybody else is going through the same battle we are the same battle with their ego dealing with the same life issues so their behavior doesn't represent who they are as spiritual or authentic being sometimes it's just their ego talking and I think the ability there is to see past that behavior and see them and and the great thing is we can do that it's all subtle it's all about it'll just come through and in everything in our body language in the words we use they'll know that we're seeing who they really are that we're tolerating their their ego and having compassion for it and that in itself will will you know it will improve things and I think it it comes back to other talks about just understanding people and the human being and the game of life and it's recognizing that people aren't their ego the same way that we have to identify with our ego we know we're beautiful authentic self we have to see that in others and you know I look back on work relationships I've had in the past and I just hated these things about people and and that's you know what I know now is that was just an observation of their ego that's all it was that's all it should have been I'm observing this it's your ego it's not who you really are and then you know responding accordingly and that's compassion being able to see the other people so I think for me who are probably lean more towards the introversion side and I've always you know found it difficult in some way some relationships difficult I think the key is to just embrace the power of your authenticity even if you're in a work environment and you're not you fall at least at the superficial level under somebody else's authority there's so much power in just being your authentic self not trying to please anybody because ultimately that's inauthentic that's coming from the ego not kind of avoiding who you are or feeling unworthy but just being yourself enjoying the moment being aware that sometimes you're gonna have people who are beautiful and authentic towards you sometimes people are gonna throw their ego at you and you just have to see observe it for what it is