Q1-20020209-Larry_Rosenberg-IMSRC-the_bhaddekarrata_sutta_reflections_on_true_solitude_4-8727 Leandr

Talk: 20020209-Larry_Rosenberg-IMSRC-the_bhaddekarrata_sutta_reflections_on_true_solitude_4-8727 Leandra Tejedor.json Start_time: 00:29:13 Display_question: How can I be less attached to getting rid of the energy I experience, when I notice how judgmental my mind is? Keyword_search: nonjudgmental, awareness, energy, suffering, attached, judgmental, letting be, letting go, Buddha, Buddhist psychology, Pavlov, ego, self-deception, delusion, craving, investigate, fire, resistance Question_content: Questioner: Yeah. I've got a question about nonjudgmental awareness. In other words, approaching a situation, or a thought, or an energy, without thinking this is either bad, or good, or this shouldn't be the way it is. I've been very attached to particular outcomes, to a situation, and it caused me a lot of suffering. I'm very attached to it, and I've sat with this energy, I’ve observed it, I’ve been with it, I’ve felt it and… Larry: It doesn't go away. Questioner: Not only…it doesn't go away. But I look at it and I think, I hate this. I want it to go away. Larry: Can you see that? Questioner: Yeah. Larry: No. Can you look at that? Questioner: Look at hating? Larry: In other words, this is what I hear is your question. I hear it as, how do you get a mind that's non-judgmental? Sounds nice, but my mind's very judgmental. Are you not saying that? Questioner: I think that might be what I'm saying. Larry: No, let's be sure. Questioner: How do I sit with this energy, and not come at it from like, God, I hate it, this is bad. I shouldn't have this energy. Larry: You shouldn't be practicing a certain way, or you should… Questioner: I shouldn't be so attached. Larry: Oh, okay. Yes, I do. I think so. We hear letting go. Letting go. Letting go a lot. And so, of course, everyone the star of the show is, letting go. Forget about letting go for the moment. To no attachment. Do you see what I'm getting? The real letting go comes out of, letting be. It's like a synonym for it. So that when you're, like, er, er, er.(tightens fist). Feel how much feel tight your fist is, and also feel what that's like. It's not very pleasant, is it? See, the real letting go, when it begins to happen, in a profound way, is not because the Buddha said, attachment leads to suffering. And then Michael reinforces it, and I do, and you read books, and they all do. It comes out of you. The deepest way in which that truth becomes your truth, is you begin to see in here, in your bones, that holding on doesn't work. It's futile. The holding on, it feels like this. The veins are popping out of your neck. The shoulders are up like this. The heart, you go for checkups, and they say, hey, you got a lot of high blood pressure. You're so young, et cetera, et cetera. So that you learn, like, the Buddhist psychology is very simple, almost simple minded. Break_line: A lot of it is similar to Pavlov, you know with his rats. Okay, you stick your hand in fire, and you get burned. Most of us learn that one. Maybe we do it a second time, right? Usually, unless you have something really wrong, you don't do it a third time. Okay, now you can then get attached to, fire is no good, but you can learn how to use fire to heat yourself, to cook with, without you know that this is something you don't touch, and maybe your mommy told you not to do it, but then when you touch it, you do it, and it burns. Then you really know it, and then it's your truth. And letting go is irrelevant. I mean, you don't even want it anymore. Now, a lot of things in life are decked out, camouflaged. They're saying, I am incredibly wonderful. In the meantime, they're fire, and we're getting burned by it. And that's what it's the power of self-deception, delusion, craving. The ego is so vulnerable. Do you see what I'm getting at? Break_line: And so, investigate what it what it means to it, to have the resistance, the contraction, all of that. And out of that, it's like fire. You're going to learn. It will just start. It's a natural law. It'll start to loosen up and ease up, and then it'll fall, like a fruit from a tree. My ethnic group is, we point all the time, sorry. Do you see what I'm getting at? Good. End_time: 00:33:31