jul30_i_have_the_tools

The speaker is on a personal journey of self-discovery to live authentically despite having ADHD. They share their experiences and provide tips for others who may be going through similar struggles. The speaker emphasizes the importance of not judging others and encourages parents to support their children with disabilities. They discuss the different levels of ADHD and how it can impact daily life. The speaker wants to change the stigma surrounding mental health and hopes to help others by sharing their story. I'm on a journey of self-discovery to finally live my true, authentic self, not based on others' opinions of me or in fear of others' opinions of me, but to live fully for myself, to be proud of myself despite my ADHD, and talk about some of the struggles that I've gone through and some of the ways that I've learned that my brain works, and share some tips and tricks along the way so that maybe somebody can get something out of it, too. But this is really a therapeutic piece for me. This is something that I needed to do for myself and only myself. I am not an ADHD coach, I am not a therapist, I am not licensed, I will be speaking solely on my self-research, my journey through life, my journey through therapy, and where I'm at now. This is a personal blog, and if you want to join in and listen and get some inspiration and know that you are not alone, if you are going through these things, too, or have gone through them, then please, join me, friend, because I do not judge. I think every person deserves to be their own self without fear of judgment. I think that every person deserves to be unique, and I appreciate that, and I hope there's some other people out there that appreciate that, too. I also hope that, my other hope is that people out there may stumble upon this and get some tips and tricks, or maybe just a new mindset for how they can parent their children if they see some of these tendencies come through, and to not place judgment or shame based on these things. ADHD is not anything to be ashamed about. What people should be ashamed about is not giving their child the tools that they need to succeed. If your child has a disability of any kind, then you should show love and kindness and care and do as much research as you can about the diagnosis or the disorder or whatever it could be so that they can be as successful as possible and live a full, loving life. And if you don't do that, well, then you're just doing them an injustice. The generation before me, they had a little bit of a pass. Not really, because I struggled my whole life, but mental health was not what it is today. We have the chance to change the world. At least that's how I feel. I feel passionate about sharing my story, and I finally feel confident enough to speak out about some of the things that I've gone through to help those that are coming up after us. I have a 13-year-old and a 3-year-old little boy. My 3-year-old shows tendencies of ADHD, and I feel equipped and proud that I'm going to be able to share with him my experiences and my tools and that I know how his brain works. If he does end up having it, I know how his brain works so I can give him the tools that he needs. And I only know these things because I've done extensive amounts of research myself to learn and adapt and trial and error and do over. ADHD is a non-curable disease. You can develop skills to set yourself up better for success, depending on where you're at in your life. And, you know, you can get better, but you're always going to have it. And we'll talk a little bit about the science behind it. It's not going to be too science-y tech. I'm going to say it in ways that you can understand because I am a high school graduate. And, yeah, like I said, I'm self-taught. I learned everything that I know now from reading books, listening to podcasts, doing self-courses, going to therapy, trial and error, coaching others, listening to others' experiences, and you can develop the skills. For those of you that don't have ADHD and you're listening to this, I'm not sure why you would, but maybe you are. I don't really know what normal looks like. Let me just say that. ADHD is on a spectrum. We'll just say, like, from 1 to 10. It's technically the DSM-5, but we'll just say from 1 to 10, okay, 1 being the lowest, like maybe you forget things or you're a little inattentive or maybe you have the other type that you probably are more familiar with where you are really hyper. That's fine. I've got them on 1 to 3. Or you could be on the other side, which is severely impacting your life. That would look like not having the capability to remember things at all. You have to have a calendar and a planning system and a routine, and you have to have reminders set up in your device consistently to remind you about those things. You have to have other things set up, like telling your smart speakers to remind you where you put things, because even though you think that your brain is going to remember that, it does not. And that can impact your life. It can impact your life because you forget court dates. It can impact your life because you forget medical bills. You have children and you forget their stuff, and now you're impacting them. There's so much. And then you have so much stuff filled into your brain. How can you pour into other people when you're constantly having to pour into yourself? Your relationships are superficial, or even though you're giving it your all, the other people that are in the relationship with you or around you, they think you're superficial or flaky or that you're aloof or you're not caring, when really you're giving it every piece of you that you possibly can, and you probably just haven't been able to sit down and say, look, this is what's going on with me, I don't know what to do, and I need help, because nobody says or has said that that is okay. And that's what I want to change. It is okay to not know what's going on. It is okay to be confused if you have things going on inside of your head or with your body or in your life or in general that maybe you're not used to, or maybe this is different, or maybe you're under a lot of stress. The thing is, nobody wakes up in the morning and says, I just want to be a piece of shit and walk around and have no friends and struggle all day long and get told many times throughout the day that I messed up or I did something wrong. No, nobody wants that. Everybody wants to live a happy, fulfilling, great life and feel successful and feel recognized and feel seen and feel heard. So with that being said, let's move on.